To My Jeremy, my love, my husband,
I love you. You are the best man I have ever met. I am your Dwight Shrute and you are my Michael Scott. I am your Rachel and you are my Ross. I am your Marge and you are my Homer. You make me laugh through my nose…yes sometimes it hurts but then you are there to comfort me and wipe my face. You make me love being able to love. That is why I cry during Grey’s Anatomy – because I wish Meredith could love McDreamy as much as I love you. You make me proud to be called the ball and chain. I wear that badge with honor because it means you married little old me!
My dear hubbie, so many people are always commenting on why I call you my “boyfriend” when you are clearly more – you are my husband. But is that more? I know that being married means we are able to procreate without judgement. I know that we get a sweet tax break for filing jointly. I know marriage means that it is perfectly normal to know what goes down in the bathroom. But is that MORE than being my boyfriend?!
In today’s society people choose a spouse and a have a lawn guy (or a physical trainer or a pool boy) on the side. But you see, I want my cake and wanna eat it too. Sure you are my legal spouse. But people don’t understand that you are also my boytoy. You are the guy that I chose almost one year ago. And you are the guy that I will choose tomorrow. But let’s be honest, we live in a society that says husbands are not the same as being one’s boyfriend.
Yes, you are my hubbie. You cringe when I poot under the sheets. You say “I think you are beautiful” when I bring up my poochy fat roll. You blowdry my hair when my shoulder muscle has cramped from the sixty pound hairdryer. But you are more than the things you do for me. Those are husband things. And baby – you are more than my husband.
You are my best friend. You are my best boy. And as my boyfriend, it is not about the things you do for me. It is actually about me. (like always!) It is the way I look at you. The way I feel about you. The way I ache for you. Those are the things that make you my boyfriend.
All I can hope for is that I will always think of you as more than my husband. And I pray that you think of me as your trophy wife.
Your sugar lump lump,
Katie
{sigh} Awwww! To precious of a post!
I have to admit, I’m one of those readers who needed the explanation!
This may be the cutest thing I’ve ever read. You are so right… why are a boyfriend and husband considered two different things? Could this mentality be part of the infidelity problem… I’m off to ponder that.
This may be the cutest thing I’ve ever read. You are so right… why are a boyfriend and husband considered two different things? Could this mentality be part of the infidelity problem… I’m off to ponder that.
Aaah, newly weds-I love it! Never thought of it that way, makes you think! 😉
Awww…so sweet!
Very sweet!
Aw, you are so much fun! What a great letter to the hubs! Err…boyfriend! 🙂 I totally understand what you are saying, though. I love it!
Hi ya’ll – glad that my little love letter to my boyfriend brought a little smile to some of your faces (sometimes that gooshy stuff can make people gag!)
And now that the cat’s outta the bag about the WHY – I hope I see many more of your posts refer to your hubbie as your boyfriend! That would make me happy.
GO MARRIAGE!
XO – Katie
Awwww, Katie–so sweet!!
My favorites:
“You cringe when I poot under the sheets.”
and
“I pray that you think of me as your trophy wife.”
OMG, Katie, I laughed, I cried. This post was a roller coaster of emotions for me. I blame my PMS.
Super duper sweet words =)
this was really cute. great post! i randomly lurk and i found the “boyfriend” story awesome so i had to tell you. your humor comes through when you write!
If you do have a boyfriend, why marriage then?
Hi Anon – See paragraph 2. Sweet tax break, no judgement, and toilet info…those are the basics. But that trio is just the tip of the iceburg on why we got hitched. There’s the whole lot more. Like the fact that he can’t legally get rid of me without shelling out a huge amount of dough. Yeah…I like that one. a lot 🙂
XO – Katie
That was really heartfelt and honest. I just might show it to my little slice of a boyfriend!
love love love this! your blog is awesome….
Haha! I need to show this to my boyfriend/hubby. I called him my boyfriend the other day to be romantic and he asked (with great concern), “Why did you demote me?”
After over 35 years of marriage, my husband is still my “boyfried” and always will be. I know you will have the same relationship after 1 year or 50 years.
I love this. My father has called my mom his “girlfriend” FOREVER… I wanted this for myself when I married.. to love like you do when you first fall in love. I have that… my hubby is and has always been that boy that I met when I was 15. I love him more then I did back then, but he still excites me and makes me giggle like I am a teenager. We have shared 14 years together and 8.5 years of marriage and he still amazes me!
It is sooooo awesome to see someone who feels the same way about their husband as I do! You said all the things I couldn’t get out of my head onto paper! I have been married for almost 4 years and when I am married 20 or 30 years I still want people to think we are newly weds! :)Love your letter. I totally got it! 😉
Beautiful, if I didn’t know any better I would have sworn you were a Girl Raised In The South (G.R.I.T.S). In the south it’s always about the G.R.I.T.S. just a wee bit mores sutle I guess, LOL. Thanks for sharing a romantic letter.
Hi Katie – I stopped by after seeing your link on YHL – this post really made me smile. I am getting married in December and always refer to my future husband as “my boyfriend”. People are always surpised I didn’t make the switch to Fiance… but boyfriend just seems to capture our relationship so much better. I get tired of trying to explain that to people so I was thrilled to see there are other women out there who feel the same way I do!
Katie, thank you so much for sharing this…it makes my heart smile that you feel this way, but also that you feel it so enthusiastically that you want to share it with us. I love you, your blog, your sense of humor, your tendency to “over share” (I mean, to me it’s not over sharing, that’s the stuff people want to know, right???) I look forward to continuing to be your nerdy devotee 🙂 PS: I call my husband my “mancandy” or “muscles”…it makes him feel all manly 😉
LOVE. I feel the EXACT same way about my own boyfriend/husband. He’s one and the same! 🙂 xo
Katie…you might be delighted to know you could easily still feel this way after 21 years. I do. My husband is first and foremost my boyfriend, for all the reasons you described. Infidelity is laughable to both us…we are way too into each other to have any time or energy to cheat. It is a blessing…but also a choice. We have always chosen to talk about our history together with joy and awe, to show our adoration openly and to be honest and loving with each other. Many of my friends tell their problems to their girlfriends first. I have always told Jamal first and I can’t imagine doing otherwise. No one wants more for me to be happy and to help me…except perhaps my mom. 😉 It is a lovely bonus that he is completely and utterly sexy. Who would have thought combining the genes of a very ordinary looking Irish-German former nun and a short and rather homely Pakistani immigrant would result in my husband? It is alchemy, I tell you.
I love this letter! Makes perfect sense to me – it’s a choice you make every day. That means it’s fresh … not an “institution”! K.
My hubby/boyfriend and I have been married for 18 yrs and people still tell us to “get a room” because we always hold hands and gaze longingly into one another’s eyes and kiss just because we feel like it. Just the other day he told me that I would ALWAYS be his Trophy Wife. We have loved each other literally all our lives and yet I still keep finding things about him that make me love him more and more.
I love this! How sweet! 🙂 I hope I can always speak so positively about my husband online. You set a great example of how to build up our loved one to the rest of the world.
GO MARRIAGE!!!!!