(this one may seem outta the blue…I wrote it A LONG time ago…and feel like maybe today is the day to be bold and hit publish.)
Let’s get real for a second, shall we?
Let’s talk about blogging. I know this post might stir the pot with some of you but I feel like it’s the elephant in the room. The very large elephant. The very large pink polkadotted elephant with the herd of elephants behind it ready to stampede me into the ground. And I feel like someone somewhere must say it.
Here goes.
SOMETIMES BLOGGIN SUCKS.
Whew.
I said it. I said it and I mean it.
Let’s just speak the truth here for a minute. Everyone starts off their blog and looks forward to that very first comment. The one where you realize a perfect stranger (and they are literally perfect in every sense of that word to you at that moment) has read something that you wrote and then they took the time to click that “Leave a comment” link and then actually said something in reference to what you wrote. It’s pretty thrilling. Unbelievable actually. You almost die outta pure joy.
Then there comes the day that you reach your high number…whatever that may be. And the world is your oyster. Actually the world is an oyster that just spit out pearl necklaces and matching earrings and perhaps a brooch in your direction.
It happened to me. I remember the day I said “People online never say mean things. They are the nicest people in the world”. And I believed it too. I had just posted about a new pair of glasses. And took photos of my mug modeling them for all the world to see. I had this high. Like I was Heidi Klum. Heidi Klum married to Will Smith with David Beckham’s body and Matt McConaughey’s accent.
And then you keep chugging along…post after post…day after day…suddenly the blog seems like an obligation. like a chore. like a ferret on your shoulder chewing on your ear.
So you take a blogging break. It’s theraputic. It’s relaxing. It’s amazing. It was exactly the break you need. It happened to me. It was great.
Then your fire for writing has returned. You jump back on the bloggin’ band wagon. You write. You craft. You edit photos. You linky party. It seems to be okay for a while until it happens.
THE COMMENT.
I know it’s wrong to talk about. THE COMMENTS. But let’s for a sec. Let’s tread in those dangerous waters. I am not talking about the comments from readers who generally leave positive or uplifting or supportive comments and then disagree with something. No. We aren’t talkin about that. I am talking about the comments from people out there that feel like this is some sort of political power struggle…they are one party and you the opposition. Or maybe they just feel like you should know how much you really suck. Or how you give Jesus a bad reputation. or how you are copying someone else. Or how your personality is too flat, or too big, or you try too hard or you don’t try hard enough. or how you look weird, or how you are too wordy or not wordy enough or how you are overexposing your kids or how your style is obviously not their style. or how this or that or that other thing. in the end, you just hear one thing: the slappin noise of the backhand across your face you just received via world wide web.
This also applies to community webpages where people feel the need to discuss the general suckiness of others. HELLO…we are ON the internet…you don’t think we see your incoming links that throw us into the abyss of cruel comments?!
To those people I would like to be bold. I would like to say…hello my dear sludgethrowers, hear me now and hear me well…yes, I muddy up the name of Jesus…he was perfect afterall…and I make mistakes….so it’s kinda hard not to suck compared to sinlessness. and yes, I love my kids…which is why I talk about them…on my blog….which is supposed to be my space to discuss the relevant things in my life…like my kids….and of course somewhere else you may see this same exact idea or renovation or craft…because there are 126 million blogs online and someone somewhere is bound to have covered this topic…and even if they haven’t, there is probably someone out there did ______(fill in the blank) in their own home and someone else saw it who told their sister or neighbor or whatever and now you had the same bright idea. In the end, isn’t this world just one big recycled idea anyway?! And yes, I know that it is fun to criticize me for putting myself out there in the limelight of my 100 readers…but isn’t it more sad that you feel the need to talk about me behind my back or directly to me (like you know me in real life) and ruin my day? And it does. People won’t say this because it “gives you power”…but it does RUIN our days. Your rude comments stay with us long after they escape your lips (or fastly typing fingers). They make us cry. They make us crawl into bed and cover our heads. They make us call our mothers. Is that what you want to be…a day ruiner?
And here’s another thing…you may think you know me…but I assure you, you do not. No matter what, everyone is different than how they write or act on a blog. It’s true. We bloggers have evolved to fit into this worldwideweblife. It’s survival of the fittest in here. And I am just a squirrel tryin to get a nut. Seriously. You could have a post that reveals the true you…but no one has every post that is a true 100% picture of how they act in or are in real life. For some, the internet makes writers brave. some energetic. some are more kind. some less. the point is…how well do you really know someone in the real world? now – how well do you really know someone that you only read about? finally – how well do you really know someone that you only read WHAT THEY WROTE about themselves? I think the answer here is simple. you don’t.
So if you don’t know someone…why do some people feel the compulsive need to bring them down?
I may have been homeschooled but now I realize that my mother did a very good thing. My highschool self-esteem would have never survived in this real world. Especially if the real world was anything like this online one.
In the end, my rant here is for one simple reason…it’s to let you know that what you say matters. It matters to me…and my family. It matters to those reading it. We are one big community here and we should really start acting like it. This day, I have a challenge for you (each and every one of you – positive and negative commenters/community boarders/general naysayers) – LOVE. Plain and simple. Not just the people that it is easy to love. BE KIND TO EVERYONE. Afterall, it’s not our servers that holds us together…it’s love. End. of. rant.
Right on, sista. I’ve never really understood trolls… what IS the point of saying something mean to someone? Does it make them feel better about themselves? If so, I kind of feel sorry for them. Just remember Katie that most people who say something mean are incredibly insecure themselves. It doesn’t make it okay, but it does mean that you should try not to make it personal – try not to let it ruin your day, because in the end those people are dealing with their own unhappiness while YOU have a life that you’re proud to show off!
Well said Katie! Thank you for sharing!
I feel bad you let the negative comment ruin your day. I know it is hard not to, but the internet seems to make people brave and they think they can post things they would never tell you to your face in real life. I have also noticed that most of the time nasty comments are from “anonymous” or people that don’t have blogs. So, most of the time you can’t even see who would say such a thing.
I agree we all need to spread more love. I hope all the blogger bullies out there read your post.
Katie- I have never commented here before and wanted to let you know I love reading your blog and enjoy what you talk about here.
Thankyou.
since reading your blog i have been so inspired! It takes a special person to put yourself out their. Unfortunately their are a lot of people who love to voice their negative opinion. I have the same passions as you and Love to read about your shopping trips to Goodwill and what your cute little boy is up to!! Thank you for your honesty. Please keep what you are doing it truly makes my day happy:)
This sounds like a direct response to a topic on thenest about you. You can’t please everyone so just let it go or if it bother you that much, just stop blogging.
Oh! I was getting nervous thinking you were going to say that you were going to quit blogging! NOOOOO! I love your house and mostly your ideas too much! Don’t change a thing! It’s funny, but it seems like every line of work has it’s critics. I’m a Labor and Delivery nurse and my patients get mad at me if their epidural doesn’t work, or if they are in Labor longer than they thought they would be! Like I have any control over that! 🙂 Anyway, the point is….you’re great, don’t change a thing and you give those of us who are DIY infants courage to conquer bigger and badder things. 🙂 Keep up the awesome work! Ya’ll rock!
Two thumbs up! Loved this post and applaud you for sharing your thoughts – thoughts that most of us have had but have been to scared to share. Just know you are loved!
Amen sister. I hate that you’ve had those kind of negative comments. I don’t understand what would motivate someone to do that – I’m of the “if you can’t say something nice…” family.
Makes me glad my little blog is small enough I haven’t had to face this yet. Probably best for my self esteem that I never do.
Just know that for ever negative nelly out there, there are another 100 (at least) of us who love you and your blog. You totally turned me on to the power of spray paint and changed my life (or at least my house!)
People are mean. People suck. I don’t understand why people get off on being mean online (or in person). If they don’t like your adorable personality, fun ideas or beautiful baby, then they should stop visiting your blog. For those that think you aren’t “Christian” enough… well look how Christian they’re being, so rest assure, you’re doing just fine.
I think you’re hilarious 🙂 I love reading your posts (long time reading, first time commenter!). I’m sorry people suck. Turn the other cheek and all that, but it still stings. Just remember that they’ll get theirs in the end.
Chin up buttercup. ‘Tis the season for love and happiness. xo
You go girl! Glad you got that out there. I often find myself saying, “stupid blog” about my own blog. And I’m now glad I don’t have many people commenting! Feel good about yourself, you make others feel good! Merry Christmas!
Hi Katie, I also have not commented on here before but I want to say I love your blog. Great ideas, AWESOME sense of humor (seems a little like me, haha) and cute decorating! Mean people suck…let em go.
Nicole
Lauren – you are hilarious.
xo – kb
Love it! Right on Katie!
Love your blog and everything about it 🙂
Unfortunately sometimes people just suck! I hate that some people are terrible and rude and I wonder how they sleep at night….but I digress.
Hope you and your adorable family have a wonderful Merry Christmas!
First off, I know that I and many other love your blog. As in I check this one and YHL daily. It’s kind of like my crack fix. Total blog stalker of yours. I think your blog is as real as it comes so forget about those nasty comments. They are probably just really over weight people that stay at home all day and say mean things… I’m sure someone will say something mean to that.
You know what it is pure and simple HATER-ADE and people are sipping a big full glass of it! So there. You have a beautiful home and a beautiful family and you get to stay home with your son as your job and do the blog thang on the side…. that’s a lot to be jealous for!
I feel you… especially because I “really need to learn how to use spellcheck,” “need to do SOMETHING with [my] bedskirt,” and have a bathroom that looks like a “zoo” and “jail” (among other things). Thankfully I haven’t put anything out there that I’m extremely passionate about so I’m usually able to laugh it off, but I’m not sure that everyone writes comments to me knowing that.
I think you’re a great writer and have a really fun blog! Just like with all blogs, if someone really can’t stand to read something, they should just click off!
I just want you to know as a fellow friend of Jesus that I have always thought you were a refreshing example of a Christian who doesn’t take themselves too seriously and seems to live as though you were truly set free. Go on girl!
How very timely of you to publish this post. I just wrote a post about quitting the blog. Because I am sick and tired of the pressure. There will always be someone bigger, someone better, someone with way more followers. I comment on blogs until my fingers bleed and yet I can’t get noticed. It sucks.
I’m trying really hard. But it doesn’t seem to work. I have to remember to write for ME and ME alone. Not for everyone else. Not because I want to make money or gain sponsors. I want to write because I love writing. Not because I love comments (and OH how I love comments).
I know there are people out who read my blog who hate the ground I walk on. That’s okay. I don’t really care about them. I think they’ve got major problems if they continue to read my blog even though they hate me. What does that say about them?
So well said. I don’t understand the negativity that pops up in blog land. I know these people are sad and angry and are just taking it out via the internet but I really wish they would stop. It’s so unnecessary.
Ignore the haters. Seriously. You are an awesome blogger. One of the big dogs. You are an inspiration to us little dogs and I hope you continue to do your thang just they way you have been. You are witty, fun, and have an awesome decorating sense. There’s a reason you have such a following – you’re a great blogger! If you were a vanilla, boring blogger, you wouldn’t be you, and all of us that like your blogging persona would have a little empty Katie sized hole in our blog readers.
Totally with you. There is really no excuse for anyone critisizing you for putting your time and effort and heart into a blog. Its not like they are paying you. If they dont like it, don’t read it.
Its always so hard to remember the good stuff when a few bad apples chime in.
I heartily disagree with Ashley. What Katie is talking about is a call to decency. She’s not being overly sensitive to negative comments, she’s just being human for Pete’s sake! There is a reason why we should all do our best to live by the golden rule.
Also, I have your blog and YHL blog on my Favorites list so I can easily check them every day! Keep it up!!
Hi Katie,
I also have never posted on your blog, but check-in regularly to see what new pictures I can pour over to see what to bring to my own home. Know that I appreciate it and think that you are doing a great job – you keep this blog real, down-to-earth and genuine. Great job – keep it up!!
Awwwww KB. I’m so sorry you have experienced “the dark side” of blogging. There are so many of us that just adore you, though! Keep it up, girl! And Merry Christmas to you and your lovely family 🙂
I never said she is over sensitive, of course it would bother me too. My point is people aren’t going to stop being negative so there are two options, brush it off and move on or quit. End of story. I also think posting about it really just makes it worse.
Lots of LOVE coming your way! Sorry, about those meanies! I love your blog and think its cool you were homeschooled! Keep us updated on the new house offer! Merry Christmas!
~ Ali
I hear ya on this. My own personal blog is too small for this “online hatred” that you’re talking about, but my professional blog is starting to get some of that action. Its not fun. Its a waste of time, but ppl still do it.
Keep your head up, we’re always looking forward to your next post for a good laugh, and great ideas.
I love your blog. I also love Will’s Steelers onesie 🙂
As someone who blogged about their wedding on a very large and very public site, I say AMEN. It’s amazing how one snarky comment can ruin 100 good ones. You would think that after the first few, our skin would grow tougher – but it doesn’t. While they will always sting, if you look at them with a glass-half-full attitude you cannot help but feel thankful. Thankful that I have enough love in my life that I don’t have to go around spewing anonymous internet hatred on people I have never met. Every time I receive a negative comment I go and leave a nice one on someone else’s blog to even out the world a bit.
Ashley,
I totally understand that there is going to be somebody out there that generally can’t stand me, my blog or bacon 🙂 The reason I am putting this out there…after having it sit in my draft folder for almost a year….is because I hope that it encourages someone. I know that is hard to understand. But someone somewhere is going to get a negative comment today and I am praying that my boldness in posting what I feel will help them feel not so battered….not so alone….not so ruined. I have developed some pretty tough skin over the course of bloggin and a few mean-spirited comments can’t keep me down. But I know that putting out REAL emotions about REAL situations is what keeps blogging REAL. And posting about it may make it worse…but if it lifts one person up, I’ll take a million hits of sludge. How’s that for martyrdom?!?
xo – kb
Here’s another way to look at it. That comment (or comments) is the true sign of success. It’s when you know you’ve “made it” as a blogger, because someone actually cares enough about your blog to bother spewing some hate-filled crap at you. There are days after a year and a half of blogging when I feel I’m talking to no one. I’d love some hate-filled rhetoric every once in a while.
People are jerks. It’s true. Don’t spend your time worrying about it. Keep on keepin’ on and do your thang, girl.
I adore you and your blog. However, as a fellow blogger, I agree with what you said. It is hard, it is discouraging, but you have to try and look past the negatives to ALL of the positives. Stay strong, tell yourself you are better than those day ruiners. The blog world wouldn’t be the same without you in it!
xoxo,
Jen
I am also not one to comment frequently but I feel the need to show my support because I hate bullies and that is what those type of people are! I check your blog frequently and I find it to be incredibly genuine ( enough that I called my mom to tell her about it the day I stumbled up0n ABP!) I think you are a beautiful person with a beautiful family and I have been inspired to try new DIY projects in my own home because of this blog. I love the way you talk about your faith and the fact that someone said otherwise gets me so mad! Keep doing what you’re doing because I love it and I think your great!
And as they say haters gonna hate 😉
I like reading your blog and your boyfriend and kid (and you) are all cute. Tell them to shove off cause I have fun reading you and after all, I am the only one that matters. 🙂
Amen sister. AMEN. I do not have a blog — I don’t think I could handle it!
I like bloggers who are relatable and have uplifting things to share. I also like bloggers who are sarcastic and sassy and a little off-color. I like bloggers who are REAL. To be honest, I don’t really gravitate to blogs where every single commenter is full of sunshine and sparkles… that seems so fake to me. I have quit reading blogs where almost every comment seems to be from mean girls who want to bully others who kindly and tactfully express opinions that aren’t exactly the same as the rest of the bunch.
I love your blog because you are multi-faceted. You come across as sweet and funny and genuine and imperfect, like the friends I have in “real life.” I think Jesus would enjoy your company. I do.
xo
Katie, I love your blog (and bacon)! You are such an inspiration to those of us with “little” blogs, and I seriously cringe every time someone says something mean to you in a comment. It would be nice if the negative people who leave rude comments would just STOP READING BLOGS. Or at least stop leaving rude comments in order to try to make themselves feel better. Hopefully all the nice, supportive comments at least make up for it a little bit!
xo
c
10 bucks this is my sister…? 😉
Katie Bower…you will always have two thumbs up in my book!! 😉
Thanks for doing what you do…it makes my day a little less blah!!
Hi Katie,
Back in the day when blogging was just starting to get a name for itself I had the assignment through a college class to start my own blog. Our professor once a week, and on a projector for the entire class to see, would go over our progress and give us feedback. Then it happened. A women, who openly admitted to sitting in her PJ’s all day, created a blog just to attack me. An “anti Jess blog,” if you will. I cried and I ran out of class, actually. It was horrific. I too, called my mother and cried for hours about how I didn’t understand people. And here’s what she told me. She suggested I thank them for making me the center of their universe. She suggested I take it as a compliment, that something I said, caused them to go to all that trouble and dedicate a part of their day, to little ole’ me. And you know what, she was right. It sucks. It really does, but look at all you have. Let them hate, let them say terrible and UN-true things. At the end of the day, with your baby and boyfriend, hurt feelings or not, guess what? You win. Keep being a terrific person, blogger and mom. And keep sharing. Why? Because we care!
I do not know the real you but I just want you to know I adore the blogger you. I love the way you ‘keep it real.’ I love the out takes of a normal life – like a messy house or admiting being a new mom is not easy. And I love that inspite of it all you can tell you love your family and God. My most favorite post is your Letter to Self, if it was meant for encouragement it was a sucess!
There is too much anonymity. I wish the negative commenters would have to take credit, face-to-face for what they say. I’m sure they’d be embarrassed.
Katie I honestly think you are one of the ‘realest’ bloggers I know, even if I don’t really know you. Wait, I don’t?? But I refer to you by first name in conversations…
I just started my lil bloggy and hearing you talk about your first comment was hysterical. Just a few weeks ago, I checked my stats before bed and I had hit a record high of 50 visitors that day. I seriously got teary eyed and ran upstairs to my husband (who has a giant website of his own and probably secretly laughed at me) and I was all like “GUESS WHAT! 50 people read my blog today!” It was, and still is, so exciting to hit those milestones. Because you know, I only have 1 mom so that means 49 others are reading.
So though I haven’t had a mean comment, I’ve been the victim of nasty facebook comments and just general meanness over the internet. I think people think that if it’s not in person, they can type whatever they want. It’s becoming a very awkward social networking issue… like cyber bullying for adults!
Keep your chin up kid! 🙂
I hope you never change. You are correct in saying that your readers don’t know you but to me, you are the real deal. There will always be hateful people in this world. We can’t change that but we can do something about how we handle it. I don’t have a blog but I sure have several that I enjoy reading. Thanks to you and other bloggers for sharing with the rest of us. It is refreshing to read about new ideas, families, friendships and just life in general. Keep up the good work and have the Merriest of Christmases!
Hey Katie,
Just wanted to let you know that I read your blog often and I love your ideas and thoughts about design, crafts, and motherhood. What I enjoy the most is your sense of humor and that you “keep it real” and have never once claimed to be perfect. Keep up the good work!
I love this.
I read your blog all the time, and YHL too. I think it is refreshing that you openly keep Christ in your life, because many do not. People can be more mean online than they would ever even think about being in person because they can hide behind their computers. That gives them power and they feel superior….but they are not. Keep on rockin’ Katie – more Bower Power!!!
100 bacon points to you for writing this. I have yet to start a blog because of this very reason. I have never understood why people feel the need to be mean. Keep your head up and keep on chuggin along. I love reading your stuff everyday… it makes my day better. So know that you are bringing a little bit of sunshine into people’s days when you write! Ohh and your photography skills have finally made me jealous enough to where I bought a new SLR, asked for a 50mm lens for Christmas, and have been practicing a ton! So thanks!
Amen, sistah! Do you remember those old bumper stickers, “Mean people suck?!” I remember that each and every day and whenever I receive a snarky comment (or somebody complaining because my blog isn’t x y or z) I just remember that it’s my slice o’ life, my writing, my beliefs and values and, yes, those snarky mean people suck!
Hey, I love your blog! And I know I don’t comment all the time but if there’s anybody out there who makes a mean comment to you, send ’em my way and I’ll give them a piece of my mind and a knuckle sandiwich.
Hugs and kisses! Be well!
Lindsay
oh, katie. it makes me sad that you have had nasty comments.
i love your blog–it’s one of my absolute faves. it’s real–that’s why i love it.
Well said…as always. You are honest and your writing is a pleasure to read. I never know what I am going to see or read when I come to your blog, but I always enjoy my visits to your virtual home. It’s difficult to realize that your virtual door is open to anyone who wants to walk on in. You hope they’ll wipe their negatively “muddy feet” at the door. Keep smiling and keep blogging!!!!! Yours in the only blog I check daily…can’t miss my daily dose of BOWER POWER!
people are dumb. if you don’t like someone’s blog, don’t read it. end of story. i guess snarky comments come with growing fame – obviously enough people like your blog that it gets around.
Um, today would be the day for one of the blog-queens to rock your world, huh? Like what would you do if PW commented on this and said, “Katie, you rock! I read your blog everyday!” Unfortunately, I don’t have that power, so instead, I will say it from little ole unknown me. Katie, you rock! I read your blog every day! I love it. I love that you know Jesus. I love that you serve him and want your kids to serve him. I love that you are a REAL person. And I love that you happen to have good taste in design. Which is why you would be one of my blog-heroes.
On a side note, do you think there will be bacon in heaven? You know since our Savior was Jewish and all???
Hey Katie… Just wanted to let you know that your blog is my very favorite. I check it first thing in the morning daily and enjoy it the most. You’re so real and and funny with your writing. I appreciate that about you. The funny thing is, the people leaving mean comments, keep coming back to read your blog. Keep it up and try not to let they mean girls get you down. You’re a beautiful person that opens their life daily with a bunch of strangers so I admire you for that!
Is it inappropriate to give you an amen?
No?
AMEN!
p.s. I just moved away from Atlanta and I’m watching the news reports of ice, hail and general armageddon – please be careful!
Katie! I love your blog! I never comment, but always read. (And I love bacon. So does my 6 month old, but he doesn’t eat it. He just thinks it’s funny when I say it.) I must say that I do not understand all of the time and energy people put in to criticizing the blogs of people they do not like. If I come upon a blog and do not enjoy reading it, I simply do not read it again. I just don’t get it! I had someone who never reads or comments on my blog comment on a months-old post that I spelled clause wrong (Santa Claus apparently has no “e” in it!). Do they really search the internet looking for people who make that mistake?
Keep on keepin’ on!
First of all that picture is the cutest ever. I have a very small blog that only family really reads and it is for this reason, I am not brave enough to put myself out there. But I want to thank you for putting yourself out there and doing battle with the mean comments everyday. I know it must be hard. I learn so much from you and every blog I read that I am truely thankful for all your time and effort.
I have never understood why some people feel the need to leave mean comments! Sometimes they sting me and I’m not even the target! Didn’t their mothers teach them not to say anything if they couldn’t say something nice? I think you are pretty awesome 🙂
Way to go, Katie! Stay strong and keep up the great work. Praying for you and the fam.
Katie-
I’m a long time follower, first time commenter. Not counting the giveaways hehe. Anyways, I just wanted to let you know how much I love your blog and writing style and hope you continue to keep blogging for a long time. It might take one mean comment to ruin your whole day, so here is one more nice one to hopefully counteract them haha
I think it’s kind of ironic that someone felt the need to leave snarky comments on THIS post. Thank you for keeping it real, Katie. I haven’t been reading for long, but I enjoy your blog, and reading about your life along with your home decorating adventures. The pictures of your adorable child don’t hurt, either.
haters gonna hate!
you’re a bright, loving and creative woman. i’m so glad you’re a part of my internet life.
I’m sorry some people make you cry 🙁 I love your blog!
There are a lot of people telling you to ignore it. That’s impossible. This is your turf, your safe place, your baby. Everything that is said or unsaid effects you… YOU CANNOT HELP IT. Well said. Sadly, the cruel people will be cruel regardless. I hope at least one of them heard you and decides to stop being a day-ruiner!
I think you’re adorable. You’re a brave woman for doing what you do, and I so admire you for it!
And P.S., I don’t think you muddy the name of Jesus- just sayin’ 🙂
Have you heard this story? I thought it might be fitting to share.
A farmer’s donkey fell into a uncovered well. He cried for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. The farmer sadly decided that the animal was old and the well needed to be covered up anyway. The farmer collected his neighbors and they began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey cried horribly but eventually quieted down.
After several shovels of dirt, the farmer looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off, stomp it down and stand a little higher. Eventually, the donkey was able to climb out of the well and save himself!
So, morale of the story: when dirt is slung your way, shake it off, stomp it down and stand a little higher. 🙂
Dear Katie,
I’ve never commented on here before as I recently discovered your blog via YHL’s blog, but I’ve enjoyed reading about your home, family, hobbies, etc. I too live in GA and hope to meet you and your family someday…from what you’ve blogged about we have a lot in common, and I can always use another Christian friend…as I too muddy Jesus’ name at times (probably daily), and I thank God for His grace, forgiveness, mercy, and love. Now, please forgive the “deeper” comments I’m about to post here, but there is no substitute for God’s Word, so I’m sending some Word your way that hopefully will brighten your day!
“Life and death are in the power of the tongue.” Proverbs 18:21 You are SO right, words have great power (again the Bible says it best, that’s why include these scriptures, to encourage you as only God really can). Sometimes people don’t realize how hurtful their “comments” can be.
and sometimes….they just don’t care…
“Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks” Matthew 12:34
so they speak w/o love or care..because God is the source of love, and the fool says in his heart, there is no God. (Psalm 14:1) Yep, it’s foolishness, I didn’t say it…God did.
…and finally, we lack the true power to control ourselves (the Holy Spirit helps us control our tongues, if we allow Him, and self-control is just one part of the “fruit of the Spirit”). Those of us who know God fail often with this, but those who have no relationship with Him, actually enjoy causing you pain…they can’t help themselves! they are actually PROUD (as in, no shame in their game) of clever put downs, harsh language, even lies that corrupt, slander, and well ruin your day.
James 3:8-10ish (ahh, “but God”….my two favorite words)
But no man can tame the tongue; it is a restless evil and full of deadly poison. 9With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the likeness of God; 10from the same mouth come both blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be this way.
Ok, now that I’ve sent you a sermon….I hope you feel better. and no, I’m not as “spiritually mature” as this comment may seem. But I do realize there is nothing good apart from God and SO many in this world are far from Him, and they speak and act accordingly.
I’ll be praying for your family, your home purchase/move hopes, your sweet (God-filled) heart, and especially for those who lack a relationship with Christ (and let’s be real, even some of us who do have that relationship but neglect it) to pull their venomous darts away from you! cue the church organ…seriously, (all jokes aside) they NEED Jesus! 🙂
I love the comments people are posting. And of course, I love your blog. Nope, we don’t know you, but the way you open up online about your home and your heart makes it feel like we do — and as all of your faithful readers will agree — we think you and your blog are fantastic! I hope all of these super positive comments will fill you with joy and keep you in the best mood. Your blog is a very special part of my day and I hope that counteracts some of the negativity 🙂
Hey! I just found your blog a few months ago and LOVE it…and LOVE that you put Jesus into it in your own way- so even tho I’m one little fish in the sea- I say PREACH IT sister…have fun and poop on all those meanies. 🙂 heheh…probably not good to have my first comment have that word in it…but oh well- I have a baby.
All I have to say is- Amen Sister!
http://styleandcentsability.wordpress.com/
Hey Katie,
I love your blog. Thanks for taking the crap so that the rest of us can be thoroughly amused by your cheeky comments, heartwarmed by the sweet pics of your baby and inspired to make our homes more lovely. I don’t blog myself and sometimes I think its weird that I feel like you’re my friend because you don’t know anything about me ha ha. My husband and I are pastors in Washington, DC with a ten month old named William and, for what its worth, I think you relate to Jesus just fine. Keep making us smile!
Merry Christmas xo
amen. I think one of my first comment was from someone who actually knew me… and it wasn’t nice… it was downright hurtful! I loved this post and related to it sooo much… my fav part though?
” like a ferret on your shoulder chewing on your ear. ”
MUAHAHAHA! <3
xoXOxo
jenn
My philosophy on commenting on blogs is if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all (an oldie but a goodie). You can disagree with the author but ALWAYS do it respectfully and politely. I never understand these day ruiners who write the bad comments – just don’t read the blog if that’s how you feel. Glad you shared your feelings; I hope it will encourage everyone to be positive and supportive.
p.s. Love that pic of Will, too cute.
now im intrigued as to the blog that criticized you, katie….because you seem very direct in the details of which you are discussing….as if it wasn’t just a random comment here or there…hmmmmm THE PLOT THICKENS!!!!!!!!!!
but that’s also because im a weird dude who loves random bits of juicy gossip….. 😉
“Delurking” to say that honestly I have very little in common with you, I am not a renovator or starting a new family and I am not a practising Christian, although I do like bacon.. I come to visit because your blog is a pleasure to read and while I would never assume that I ‘know’ you, you do have a real voice.
While I know you can’t ignore these people, please take much heart from the genuine responses of support that you have received.
Thank you for sharing with us all
I totally agree! It’s awesome to see a “fun” Christian. So many times we are expected to be somber and serious and I think you have a great witness by being so open and energetic about your faith. God has a plan to use you and your blog in a special way 🙂
I think I’ve only posted a few times on here (all positive! Anything I post online, I try to keep positive — what goes around, comes around), but your post today hit my emotions, big-time. I know that the online community is ruthless, and it’s horrible what people say to you without having to show their face or back up their rudeness. But, there are other careers out there that see it, too.
My husband is in the news business — a local assistant news director — and gets dozens of rude, horrible, PERSONAL phone calls on a daily basis. “What the *expletive* is wrong with you people?” “You moron, why can’t you…?” so on and so on. The more he tells me about it, the more hurt I am. And, things have gotten worse lately — the company that owns his station is now in talks with our cable provider and, long story short, the station has been taken away from 1/2 of the viewers. *sigh* Has nothing to do with the news room, or anyone in the BUILDING, even, but boy are there rude comments flying, either through emails, phone calls, the Topix website, the station site, etc.
But, strangely, my husband is calm about it. He makes jokes. He’s not concerned. Somehow, he doesn’t really even bring it home. I’m feeling SO very hurt (hearing about it from people at my work, even, finding myself defending and giving WAY more of the story than people need to hear) and taking it personally and can’t get over it.
Sorry to vent, but your post today gives me hope. If only a handful of people in the world read your post and take heed, it may leave less people hurt. Incredible! You’ve helped me to try to remember the positive, whether the negatives are thrown at me or the person I love more than anything in the world. So, I guess what I’m saying is, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!
Oh, and here’s another wonderful lesson I’ve learned from my hubby: the crazy people are not so common. (I do believe that 90%+ of the world’s population mean well.) But, for every one positive post that you receive, you should think that at least 100 other people agree with it. For example, I don’t post much on here, but man am I a huge supporter of you in my heart, and I know there are countless more.
Keep on chuggin’, mama! You’re doing a WONDERFUL thing!!!
Hey Katie! I wish I could give you a high five, a hug, and an in-person AMEN! I, too, have a “don’t be a bully” post sitting in my drafts and have drafted it over and over again but never hit publish.
You are so right. As much as we can try to ignore the hateful comments, the bullies can RUIN our day. And they always ruin my day. I was in tears the other day because of a very specific, very hateful comment that came out of the blue.
And I completely disagree with the notion that if it bothers you, you should quit blogging. You’re a blogger just minding your own business in your little piece of the World Wide Web. But that doesn’t mean that mean comments don’t hurt.
I rarely comment, but your blog is in my Google Reader and I love to check in as often as I can. With an 18 month old and one in the way, “often” is less often than ever. Anyway, I’m proud of you for putting this out there!
Katie B… you just keep doin what you’re doin!
I guess some people’s parents never told the “if you don’t have somethin nice so say, keep your dang mouth shut.”
Just remember that people tend to voice their negative commenst about others when they’re insecure with themselves.
Wow….Katie Bower puts the POWER in BOWER POWER!!!!!
The problem with most commenters who don’t blog is that they can hide behind the internet. I think it takes big brass…errr….guts, to be able to be as transparent and open and honest as you are.
And you’re right – nobody is forcing them to read your website, and they aren’t paying you for what you write, and that’s the beauty of blogs. You can write whatever you like, however you like, and with as many references to bacon and bathroom habits as you like!
Rock on, Katie Bower. Rock on.
I just love you! I look forward to your posts because I truly enjoy them and don’t worry about not being perfect, none of us are!
damn, katie! preach. i hope this was a post that revealed more of who you really are, because i like it. please don’t ever worry about whether or not you can post a bold blog. we’re all super disgusting compared to THE LORD OF CREATION. but i’m glad you don’t let that stop you talking about your faith, encouraging others, and just speakin’ truth. about jesus AND bacon. get it girl.
sorry if i just cursed on your blog…
I just want to send you a big virtual hug!! I love your blog, love what you write and truly empowered that one day I might just get out a piece of sandpaper and start my very own DIY project! I write a very small blog (like, my parents and husband read it-the end) and even that feels like a chore sometimes. SO, thank you for continuing to blog and letting all of us readers in on just a small part of your life!
Katie, I don’t know you but I LOVE your blog and I think YOU are FABULOUS. You can tell it’s true because I wrote in capital letters. I almost never have time to read posts during the day because I have a 6 month old (named William!), so I look forward to reading your blog on my iphone each evening after he’s asleep in my arms. I cannot tell you how much you encouraged me when I was a hot mess of a new mommy, crying because my tatas hurt so much from nursing, and I would be a teary mess because my son’s latch was perfect and it STILL hurt like hell to nurse. Your random comments about breastfeeding encouraged me so much, and you didn’t even know it! I firmly believe that God gave you the talent of blogging so that He could use YOU in other people’s lives. Rock on, sister!
I’m actually quite surprised that anyone could negatively craft THE COMMENT about you. The worst thing I have to say about you is that you are clearly delusional when you refer to yourself as chubby. For the record, you are significantly, justifiably, and innumerably thinner than chubby.
I, for one, think your blog is amazing – my husband gets tired of hearing me start so many stories with the words “I read on one of my blogs today…” 🙂
I think you are hilarious, a very clever writer, and SEEM (I use that word since I don’t really know you 🙂 to be really great and someone I would probably be great friends with if I’d met you at a job, or in line at the grocery store, etc.
I specifically have really enjoyed: your post about the How-To’s of shopping at Goodwill, the wall you put in your little boy’s room (it’s so cool!), and all the cute sitting spots in your house (2 chairs, side table, wallah!)
*** and after reading your post today, I have to DEMAND that you listen to Taylor Swift’s song “Mean” on her new album. – If you’re not a taylor fan, I still demand that you listen to it because it’s AMAZING and I can’t stop singing it and it’s basically the theme song to what you wrote!!!
You said it perfectly!
While I would love to get to know the “real” people behind some of the blogs I love including yours, I understand your point exactly. I know how hard it is to get the right “feel” for what I am trying to say, I don’t always hit target. I assume its the same for everyone.
Thanks for saying everything I think the rest of us have been thinking!
Hi! I have been reading your blog for a while. And I know how cruel people can be working in the claims department at an insurance company. Yikes. But, in the end if I feel like I have done a good job, there is nothing more that I can do for them.
I really like your blog. I have only just picked it up a few months ago.
Thanks for writing about this. It’s always nice to see a different prespective. Nothing is perfect. Not even travel writing (so I have read — lol).
Happy Holidays to you and your family!
Katie- I read your blog ALL the time and yet this is my first comment.
I hope I speak for all the readers (who are not also bloggers) out there when I say thank-you! Thank-you for putting yourself out there to inspire us. It takes a whole lot of courage to do that… and you definitely do it with grace.
Another commenter mentioned that maybe you should just ‘let the bad comments go.’ WELL… maybe those who feel so negatively about what your life should just stop reading your blog. That seems to make a whole lot more sense to me.
And since I’m finally commenting… Will is SOOOO adorable!! You guys make the cutest babies!
♥ your blog, ♥ your adorable little boy and everything you have to say… do I always like your style? I suppose not but I do share your love of bacon and gosh darn that makes it all worth while right – don’t stop blogging or painting your hall green… no wait you should totally stop painting things green 🙂
Hey Katie,
I’m a youth pastor’s wife in Chelsea, AL, and if you lived near me, I would totally beg you to be my friend. I look forward to reading your blog every day, because you are real and funny…also real funny. 🙂 Your posts on the days leading up to Will’s birth literally had me in tears. Thanks for all you do. Oh, and Merry Christmas!
Katie, I think you’re brave to have a blog and share so much about your personal life for anyone to see, and comment on as they wish. One of my least favorite things about the online world that we now live in, is that people can be so mean under the veil of semi-anonymity.
Thanks for keeping it real and honest. It’s why I come back to read your blog every day.
You’re so real with your writing that I feel like I do know you 🙂 That’s why I LOVE your blog- it’s real, always interesting, and you write from your heart! Your blog makes my day a little brighter and was part of the inspiration behind why I started my own little bloggy.
In regards to those that say you give Jesus a bad name, those people must be talking about a different Jesus than the one I follow. My Jesus ran with the disciples (who didn’t have the best reputations). He was kind of rock star in His day. Lots of rule following pharisees hated him, but He loved and died for them anyway. It’s funny how people expect Christians to be “perfect” when He doesn’t even expect this from us. He says, ” Come unto me all who are weary and I will give you rest.” Oh, and I believe he also said, “He who is without sin cast the first stone.”
Beloved let us love one another…..And the greatest of these is Love ……For God so Loved the world……Don’t judge lest you be judged…….
My private Christian school education comes in handy sometimes 🙂 Thanks to my parents who paid for 12 years of it 😉 The Word of God is a shield!
Merry Christmas, Katie!
xo- Carmel
Ashley-maybe you should just stop reading. It’s people like you who are the root of this problem.
This is a really well-written post. You really nailed the ups and downs of blogging and getting comments. I just wanted you to know that I’m yet another fan and I really enjoy what you have to say every day. Your blog is uplifting and inspiring, whether you talk about rosy stuff or not. Hopefully, all these nice people leaving notes of support will make the biting comments fade away a little.
Woo! I have chills. Amen, Katie!
Thank you for being brave and bold. I have been the victim of Internet bullying in a pretty awful way, and I can remember that stomach-hits-the-floor, whyyyyy would someone say something so horrible?!, throat-tightening feeling. I went to my husband, showed him, felt ashamed…like he might see me differently because some random stranger does. It hurts. It really does. And I struggled with how to handle it, and I could have cried. It was awful. I have the same feelings you do – why? Why show anything to anyone but kindness?! I hope any “sludge” thrown your way (from this post, in the past, or in the future) is more and more easily brushed off, that you continue blogging, and that you find great peace in your beautiful family and many grateful, supportive readers. Chin up 🙂
Katie,
You.Rock. So does Jeremy. and Will.
And I don’t even know ya’ll, but I do know that you rock.
So inspiring and wonderful 🙂
Thanks!
Caroline
You go girl! I read you blog daily ~ thanks for putting yourself out there, its vulnerable ((especially when some people are so rude)). Niceness is the reason for the season!! 🙂
Katie, You ROCK!
You taught me how to make a pretty bow for my Christmas presents! I am forever indebted to you!
Hi Katie,
First of all – Amen, Sister! I am so glad you posted this.
I, for one, am soooo tired of the overall snarkiness all over the internet, be it on message boards, social networking sites, blogs, etc. If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it all! People are becoming more and more abrasive in the digital world, which is spilling into our day-to-day world, and it scares me!
I love your blog, and I am so happy for your success! Keep up the good work!
Amy in Lake Tahoe
Katie, I read and follow but I don’t comment that much and I do participate in a certain online community. Sometimes people just have nothing better to do but pick apart other people. I’ve come to realize that haters usually equal jealousy. You have a great husband, great son, great relationship, awesome house, and Jesus and bacon. Don’t stress about the snarkiness. I remember that I emailed you once with a question and you were nothing but sweet and helpful. Keep it up.
You and some others inspired me to blog about our life and whats happening and its way harder than it looks. YOu are doing great!
I very rarely comment, but I just want to say that I love your blog! I read it every single day. You are hilarious, your family is adorable, your sense of style is amazing, and you love bacon. How can people not love you?? I don’t get it. Keep doing what you’re doing (please!) and try not to let the haters get you down.
And haters, if you’re reading this, I’m pretty sure you can find something better to do with your time than make snotty comments that make other people feel bad.
You, your blog, house, and fam are super cute. Glad to read this as I just started my own blog onequirkysister.blogspot.com. Obviously these 77 comments of love mean you are something special 🙂
katie katie katie…
sigh. I hear ya.
It SUCKS when one mean comment can overshadow all the 2932809 nice ones. I hate that. Keep doing what you’re doing. As a christian (who likes to have fun too), I would NEVER have thought you ever once made Jesus look or sound bad!? People are so weird and will nit-pick ANYTHING.
But I can relate. I’m not a DIY blogger but DEFINITELY a blogger with a scary amount of people reading my blog (not quite as much as you), and sometimes? I get those snarky cruel comments too. To say you can just brush it off isn’t the case, because dudeee, we are humans and it HURTS. So, I applaud you for being honest about that 🙂
Annnyways.
You and your cute boys have a very merry christmas!
~the other Katie B.
(ps: remember, if clara ever decides Will is a no-go…I have the MOST perfectly adorbs daughter who is 7 months old…just sayin’ )
Katie, you are entertaining, hilarious, beautiful, creative, and an amazing mother (at least from what I can tell just by reading your blog). I read your blog every day, almost always with a stupid perma-smile on my face, because your blog makes me HAPPY. I don’t usually comment, but I just wanted to pipe in for that. We love you in Oklahoma. (Ew, I can’t believe that is where I live now… Thanks Air Force hubs.)
Katie!
Well, this was a random post, but I know how you feel. That is why I try to keep my blog small and private. So excited to hear about the upcoming move. I hope ya’ll get the house you want. I don’t know which direction you are headed, but if you are moving closer to the Canton area – let’s meet up and I’ll show you the best thrift/goodwill/home decor shops!
Jen
http://www.1creativemomma.blogspot.com
I forgot to say earlier that I have watched your bow tutorial like 80 times this month while wrapping presents. Thank you for teaching me how to tie a bow.
Not sure why people think it’s ok to be mean to others that they know or don’t know. I was always taught, “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all”. People have said mean things to me and I think some mean thoughts but I don’t say them back. If that makes that person feel better, then yap away. I’m not going to lose any sleep over it. I do always wonder, who the hell (excuse the language) do these people think they are? It does get to me a little, we are all human but at the end of the day that is not someone I would call a friend or hang out with. I do believe that they feel better about themselves when they put others down. I try to always come back with a nice comment (“Kill ’em with kindness”, “You get more bees with honey”) or nothing at all. That makes me feel better – by not dropping to their level.
“Mean People Suck” – Beavis or Butthead (forget which)
You’re great. You’ve got a great family; a handsome boyfriend, an adorable little man who I’m sure you will raise to be a kind, loving young man, a great house, a flexible, fun job, you’re happy…some people are just miserable and want to bring those of us who are happy down with them.
*Think of it this way – for all those mean comments you get from people, by them posting that made them feel great about themselves, you just made their day! Sad for them but good for you! And no one is forcing them to read your blog, they are checking it out for a reason…in the end, they are jealous and there is nothing you can do for them to get over it. So, keep doing what you’re doing. For every negative comment, you probably get about 100+ positives!
Take care! Merry Christmas! Enjoy Will’s 1st Christmas!
Hey Katie! I started reading your blog one day when Sherry and John posted about your affinity for table settings. Since that day, I was hooked! You are a doll, simply put….and if your overall sense of fun didn’t hook me, your son’s nursery ‘ had me at hello’! Then, I read a little more and found out you were a fellow believer…. Could it be?! A fun, stylish and whitty blogger who actually loves Jesus, like me!? Well, it was true… And I just want to say thanks. You are fabulous and if anyone comments negatively it’s truly because they’re jealous (I’m starting to sound like a mom!) but, it’s true… You and your family have everything and live a blessed life…some people just can’t handle that! Welp, thanks for the honesty…just another reason I love reading your blog! power to the bowers 😉 haha
Looks like you owe me 10 bucks 🙂
Wow! I had no idea you get nasty comments! THAT IS CRAZY. Now, I apologize because I check your blog daily (read: 4x dailyish?) and don’t really ever comment but I have learned SO much about photography, decorating, demo, etc. Please keep up the great work you and Jeremy are doing -the blog is fantastic and so are you.
Katie T
Smyrna, GA
Katie, I’m really sorry you’ve had to endure rudeness and lack of manners from someone. I believe most people do it just to make themselves feel superior to others. Crazy, isn’t it? I worry about commenting on blogs too much because I don’t want someone to think I’m stalking them. I just love some blogs that much:) There are some blogs I read and don’t really care for their particular style, but I would NEVER leave a negative comment. I figure if I don’t like it, then I don’t have to look at it again, BUT there is no reason to leave a rude comment. I hope you and your sweet little family have a joyous Christmas!
Katie, I have never left a comment before but read your blog faithfully and enjoy every word of it. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, good, bad or indifferent. I’d say, don’t take it to heart. You seem like a wonderful person and like a lot of your other readers have commented, I believe mean people are mean because their unhappy. Don’t let them bring you down!
One of the coolest things about blogs, for me, is that when bloggers are honest and open about their lives, their blog has the opportunity to expose me to a way of thinking, of life, of viewing things that I’d never thought of before. In short, blogs have the opportunity to expand my horizons.
While the blogger and I might approach a problem, life, etc. differently, I always remind myself that it only reflects poorly on me if I come to someone else’s blog about THEIR life and THEIR way of doing things, and criticize. I mean seriously, that doesn’t do anyone any good, and I look the bigger biatch for it.
Keep up the good work Katie!
Katie-
you rock, your blog rocks, your son is adorable, and your boyfriend is yummy!you do great things and will continue to do so…anyone that wants to be a bully via the internet is just lame. keep it up, you cant stop blogging you are my vice when my job and life makes me want to pull my hair out crawl under my covers and cry…no seriously, you are.
I needed this today. So thank you.
I can successfully brush off most comments that are mean. But sometimes? They sting. They sting & fester & sting some more until I want to quit everything that I love to do.
I never want to admit that because I know they would feel “power” from it. Which is sad & truly pathetic.
So thank you for saying it.
& when I stumble across pages & pages of discussion devoted to how I dress or what I say or what my kid looks like, I try to remember that these folks are spending HOURS of their time & energy to discuss me. For now reason. & I truly feel bad for them.
I had never looked at a blog until I was planning my wedding this past spring…after I got married and started to fix up our home, I got hooked on home DIY blogs. I knew I was stuck on blogs the day I realized that google reader would save me TONS of time searching for a new post. Yours was one of the first blogs I subscribed to! Thanks for all of the ideas for home decor, as well as photography tips. I only have a simple point and shoot camera, but after seeing your photos and those from ashleyannphotography.com, I’ve been thinking about upgrading and really being able to capture the moments well! Thanks for the inspiration!
Katie, I have gotten lazy and haven’t commented for a while. Love your blog, and if I didn’t, I would just stop reading it. No need for ugly comments. I just don’t understand those people. Glad you posted this. I don’t have a blog myself, but can imagine that it hurts to get negative comments when you put yourself out there most every day, and it is YOUR blog after all. People have some nerve criticizing what you put on your own blog, when no one is forced to read it. Love ya!
Yay! for standing up for what you think! Yay! for a simple reminder! And Yay! for you. I love who you are (or at least what we get to read) and all that you share with us. It’s the personality you bring on here that keeps me coming back. And you have the best things to say to those negative comments! I’ve been reading for a long time, but never commented before, and as soon as I finished reading this post, I loved it! And since I know I’m not paying you to write these posts, thank you thank you for daily entertianment, inspiration, and enthusiasm!
I believe that anytime someone posts a negative comment it is because they are jealous/envious and also because it is so easy to write whatever you want on a blog of someone, like you said, you don’t really know. Most of us don’t have a personal, in-person, connection to you and that makes it easier to write something that could potentially be hurtful, because the commenter doesn’t see your reaction. I don’t understand how people can write negative and hurtful things, because words are so powerful. I don’t know how the trolls justify their words and what makes them think it is OK to be mean! Your message of love is awesome and hopefully it helps many – those who blog and those who are trolls!
I completely agree with your post, well done! I don’t know you and I read your blog and if there was something I did not like and/or agree with, I would just click off. It is not my place to comment negatively on your blog!! This is your blog and not mine! So you keep going girl, your doing great!!
Isn’t is sad that some people have not moved beyond the petty high school mean girl stage of life? I’m sorry people are hating on you, Katie. I’m afraid there are a lot of people out there who don’t connect the dots that these blog posts are actually written by real people with real feelings and that common decency still applies out her on the internet. I always look forward to your posts . . . keep em coming. I would wager to say that there are so many more people who appreciate you and your blog for the joy and fun and helpfulness you give out for free than the petty ones who have nothing better to do with their time than hang out on chat boards dogging people they don’t even know.
Big hugs, Katie! I appreciate you. 🙂
Love, love, love your blog. Really. It’s fantastic!
Thank you. Thanks for saying what so many of us can’t. People are rude these days not only in the blog world, but in the real world too. I am a retail pharmacist and I am so tired of dealing with people’s crappy attitudes. Unfortunately, I have to smile pretty and apologize to people who are wrong because I work for corporate america where the customer is always right. It just ruins my day. So, thank you again!
Katie, for what it’s worth I absolutely adore your blog! I check in everyday and love the way you write-I often find myself laughing out loud or in awe of your projects. You’re amazing 🙂 and you make my day a whole lot better!
Keep going girl 🙂 x
I really don’t understand people sometimes. Didn’t every mother out there say “If you don’t have something nice to say don’t say nothing at all” at some time or another. If you don’t like it move your reading to another blog for goodness sake! I am sorry that there are people out there that need to bring others down and you have had to deal with them first hand. I hope all those people have gotten the message.
You are great! Your home is great! What you have to say on here is great! Keep doing what you are doing.
PS-I put in a good word with Santa…maybe he will bring you your dream house. 🙂
Katie,
I’m so sorry to hear that some mean and nasty people have been day-ruiners for you! Just know that reading your blog brightens my day for sure, as I’m sure it does 99% of those who read it! Because for every negative comment you get, I’m sure there are hundreds of people who are like me and have read your blog and were inspired, and just didn’t ever comment to let you know! Try not to let the haters get you down, and thank you for doing all that you do!! 🙂
Jessica
I completely agree with you! As a teacher, I am constantly criticized – as is my profession in general. Everyone blames the teacher. It so easy to criticize another person or their job, it takes more time to actually consider the situation and the person. Thank you for bringing it out in the open.
Thanks so much for you honesty in this post!
I’m just starting the blogging journey, so I’m at the point where any comment is one that excites me. However, I’m the type of person that in “real” life often takes things personally so if and when I get that negative comment, I hope it doesn’t discourage me from writing (since I’ve found I really enjoy it). I’m hoping that as I continue blogging (and hopefully get more readers) that I can become more like you and develop a thicker skin so that every. little. thing. won’t bother me!
I love your blog and the assortment of content that you talk about. I’m always excited when a new Bower Power post pops up on my blog roll!
What I don’t understand, is why those people are reading your blog in the first place! If they hate everything about you, why read? Why comment? Why keep the blog in their reader? Soooo dumb.
Keep on, keepin’ on, Katie!! 🙂
Katie Bower…I think you are real…honest…sincere…hilarious…inspiring…basically fantastic:)
I know enough about myself to know that I am not ever destined for a blog of my own. I have given it the fleeting thought here and there, but I always come to the same decision. My skin is not nearly thick enough. I could never handle the Gumblies. It takes a special person to open her home and her heart like you (and many other bloggers) do. The love you have for your Savior, your husband, your child, and your home is uplifitng and encouraging. Thank you for doing what you do. Please don’t stop.
Here’s the link to the song 🙂 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aoSCv3Vc0D8
Ah chin up, Katie Bower. Those mean comments can’t negate the thousands of positive ones, right? Some people are just plain mean. But remember – the blog is your job. Every job has bad days (and mean people). You are still doing a great job!
I love this post so much. I could have written it verbatim. There are days when blogging is amazing, kind and therapeutic, and then there are those other days… mean girls have gone viral, you know. It’s always something- your successes are another’s failures (at least that’s how they see it), and the never-ending competition amongst women rears its ugly head AGAIN and AGAIN.
For what it’s worth, I think you’re fabulous and was oh-so-happy to stumble upon your blog from over at YHL. Keep doing your thing because you do it well!
P.S. I wish I were home schooled. High school= wretched. My own kids will be, God willing. 🙂
Bravo. I always wondered why people felt the need to take the time to leave hurtful comments. Boggles my mind. And yes, it’s impossible to agree with everyone out there, but if you disagree on something, be polite. It’s simple.
I’m sorry you’ve dealt with people leaving snarky comments. I will never understand why people take the time to read and then comment on something they apparently can’t stand. Makes no sense.
I love your blog and look forward to reading every post. Keep on doin’ what you’re doin’! 🙂
Merry Christmas!
Katie, I read your blog every.single.day. So many people have commented, but all I can say is ditto to all the comments! Love your blog, love hearing about little snippets of your life. To those who don’t like what’s being posted…or accuse you of copying other people…all I can say is– get a life!
Hubby and I are in the same stage of our lives as you and Jeremy (minus Will :)) as first time homeowner’s, beginning our marriage, twenty-somethings who also have an affinity for DIY-ing. I enjoy everything that you post and can relate to you like you are a close friend or a sister. I enjoy reading about someone else out there going through the same experiences as we are. Blogs are like reality tv on the internet…a lot of people experience the SAME things in different ways, and that’s why they are so interesting to watch/read.
I haven’t commented your blog in over 6 months…mostly just because I feel like you probably get so many comments, I don’t want to bombard you with more, lol. But today, I felt the need to pop on over and give you a cyberhug.
((((KATIE))))
You said it all, sister.
Way to go, Katie! It’s true people can be cruel!
I thought of you bloggers the other day. I wrote my first post on a knot community board asking for opinions on a rather touchy subject and I was ripped to shreds. Not one response was nice or helpful, I was criticized for grammar, for spelling and was called a slew of names. Apparently I’m an awful person…cause ya know, those ‘knotties’ know me so well in real life. I can only imagine what it’s like to write a blog.
Know that there are many of us readers who really enjoy reading your posts each day 🙂
What!? Not all readers fall out of their seat laughing at your post? What is wrong with those people?! Maybe they were born without a sense of humor.
Katie Bower, I feel that after this post it is an appropriate time to write what i truly feel…i adore you. I think you are so adorable and smart (and i hope i dont sound to stalker-ish) but to me girl your a celebrity and i hope i can meet you one day! 🙂
@Katie–well said! I’m so glad you have the courage to stand up for what you believe in, and write about it. I’m not a blogger, but I’m inspired by this post regardless–just as I’m inspired by so many of your posts. You’re such an asset to the blogging community, in so many ways. Thanks for sharing all of your fantastic ideas to us, as well as your faith, and for ‘keeping it real’.
@Erin G., this story made me unexpectly teary-eyed. Thanks for sharing 🙂
I don’t usually comment, just a silent reader, but I feel the need to say that your blog brightens my day!! thank you and “just keep blogging! just keep blogging!” Nemo style.
*unexpectedly. It was the mist in my eyes that made me spell incorrectly, haha 😉
I have never commented before but I feel compelled to say three things.
1. Katie – I think you are funny. I don’t know where you stand on social or political issues but that is not why I visit your blog. I don’t want to know. I think you are funny. Funny matters.
2. I know your Mom loves you and you her. And clearly homeschooling worked for you. Personally, high school gave me thick skin. Perhaps, if you weren’t homeschooled the negative comments wouldn’t be given a second thought. You wouldn’t write this post. And you would miss 126 comments. There is no right or wrong way.
3. Katie – thanks for the blog. I wish you luck with the new house.
Hi Katie,
Just wanted to let you know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with posting what you did today – in fact, there’s everything right about it. You have such a special way of sharing your talent with the world and there are many, many, many people who absolutely love reading about it every single day….like me!!! Keep on keeping on and forget the idiots 🙂
You are awesome and I love reading everything you write whether it’s a new idea or not! Your spin on everything is fresh and funny. You inspire me to be a better Christian and you make me laugh! I definitely know how much blogging can suck which is why I stopped doing it. With all the effort and work people put into their blogs, sometimes it just isn’t worth it, but I hope you stick around (if you want) and keep 99.9% of us rolling in our seats, craving some bacon for dinner, and wondering when you will get tired of Will so we can adopt him cuz boy is he cute!
Katie,
What I’m going to say is pretty repetitive to what others have commented…tell those meanies to leave you alone and get a life. This is your blog and we are just fortunate that you share it with us. I look at it everyday and I literally laugh out loud at you sometimes. I even call my sister because we both have two kids ages 4 & 2 and tell her to read too. I actually live close to you too. We live in McDonough, GA about 30 minutes south of Atlanta. I am also married to a country boy! Just remember, your blog is hilarious, I love it, I’m not the only one, and keep doing what you’re doing!
Love…Jenn
Oh Katie I’m so sorry you had to write this post. There truly are some cruel people out there. I know I’ve done my share of judging bloggers but never in a million years would I negatively comment about it on their blog or post about it on public message boards. It is just not worth it, it is only my opinion after all.
By the way, I’ve loved your blog ever since I found it on YHL. And even though some things you do may not be my style (which is very rare) I still admire your DIY skills and creativity. You are my inspiration!
great post katie. thanks for sharing your heart with us! hopefully from all these comments you can see that the positive people definitely outweigh the negative! thanks for keeping things real on here!
I. Love. this. Your blog is one of the ones I love to read every day. I love seeing photos of your beautiful baby & family. Love your design styles, and your writing style. You are right that I don’t know you in real life, so I don’t know how you are in real life, but I do know from your writing style that I think you are someone I would be able to have fun with and get to know if I lived near you.
Why people feel the need to tear others down and leave mean comments is beyond me. If you don’t like what someone said, did, wrote, etc. then why are you reading it? My momma taught me to be nice to others and if you can’t say something nice don’t say anything at all. Something everyone should do I think.
Keep up the great work, and for all the negative comments & people out there know that there are so many more of us who are supportive and appreciate you putting yourself out there for us!
Wow. I have, oh, 15 people who read my blog, and truly I appreciate each and every one. But even I, in my obscurity, have received negative comments from “anonymous” and even one or two from my own sister!
My response is always, YOU are reading MY blog! If YOU don’t like what I have to say, DON’T READ MY BLOG. How much more simple can it be, people?!?
And why, oh, why does anyone think it’s necessary to be mean? You can disagree with anything I write ON MY OWN BLOG, and you can even comment on it, but it is not necessary for you to be vindictive and malicious and mean when doing it. Sometimes I might be up for a healthy debate, but there are other times I just shut off comments because you know what? It’s MY blog! I don’t have to defend myself on MY OWN BLOG! And 99 times out of 100, I’m not putting my opinion out there for anyone other than the 15 family members and friends who read MY blog on a regular basis. You don’t know me, you have never met me, you have no idea based on a blog post who I am or what I’m all about. Hell, you could have read my blog from start to end and STILL not “know” ME.
I’m sorry, Katie, that you’ve had, at any time in the past, nasty comments or commenters. Your blog seems, to me, to be an innocent, funny, charming account of life with Will, under the watchful eye of Jesus, against the backdrop of a beautifully decorated home, where you take the time to teach me that before I pay full price for a white ceramic dish in the shape of the letter K (for my first name), I should go to Goodwill and pay $1.99.
Whatever about that type of blog could anyone find offensive?!?!?
RIGHT FREAKING ON.
Seriously.
Way to be brave and put it out there. But really, it’s sad that this took bravery (and no doubt it did) because of those dang evildoers 🙁
I adore your blog. Your personality. Your precious son and your smoking hawt husband. Please keep sharing your light.
You rock.
Great response Valerie!
Katie, let your heart be encouraged…in the same way that naysayers in Jesus’ day criticized Him, they will criticize those who represent Him. You do a wonderful job on this blog of not only providing great DIY tips and inspiration but also showing the reality of life and the love and grace of our Savior through your posts.
Your readers love you, and we follow you daily! You inspire us!
Hey Katie,
I always read your blog and I never comment. Yes, I’m one of those. 🙂
I just wanted to say that you are truly an inspiration. I love the devotion you have to your husband and family, I love that you incorporate Christ into your design style and I love how you are fun, hilarious, and caring.
My husband and I are so young in our marriage and you have helped show me HOW I should love him. And how I want to make him feel. The way that you talk about Jeremy is the way I want to talk about Bryan for years and years.
I honestly love that your love and faith in Christ is never IN YO’ FACE but a serious part of your life. It comes across as effortless as breathing to you, as it should. I hope that I can convey my relationship in Christ to everyone as much as this blog does. I love that you don’t hold back in it, and that it is just you.
I started reading YHL and it led me here. And since I’m from a small town, its really hard to find friends that are good, honest, Christian people. Reading your blog gives me hope that I’ll find a good core group of friends that are as hilarious as you! I believe that for every negative comment or person that doesn’t like your writing style there are five that have fallen for you and your little family.
And to all the haters that say Will’s nursery is weird and/or ugly. It’s inventive and masculine and something that he can grow up with. None of that dainty feminine stuff that women do for their men nowadays! Yuck. Boys need to be boys! They need to get dirty and camp and build things and break things! Women forget that in all the cutesy-ness of babies. Will is most definitely a boys boy, and he’ll love his earthy room, I’m just sure of it. 🙂
Much love and prayers, KB.
-Meg
As someone who never comments but always reads…I’m very sorry that people can be so rude. Just know that there are many more people who love to read about your crafts, decorating, family, and general craziness!
Bless your bacon lovin’ heart! I have to say I am glad that you had the nerve to stand up for yourself and many of your friends that you have made through blogging.
It is SO easy for people to be very hurtful online. I just had an experience where someone (and her husband) that I see every Wednesday and Sunday at church de-friended me on Facebook. I cried for 3 hours. It really broke my heart. I felt like such a teenager to be crying and needing my husband’s love and attention. I have no idea at all what I could have done to them to upset them, but wow what a smack in the face and it was all done through the internet. People have no idea how much things like that can really affect (effect? I never know which one is right) you.
Just know that you are easy to fall in love with. Your honesty is wonderful. You show the true meaning of being a Christian….We are NOT perfect! We aren’t asked to be perfect….God wants us to be the best we can be and he wants us to show love to each other. It’s very clear that you love those around you. You want us as readers to see a real Katie….not a “Hi I’m totally perfect. My life is perfect. I never make a mistake. My house is ALWAYS in tip top shape” Geeze if that’s what I read on your blog, I wouldn’t come back…. I’d feel terrible about myself and the fact that my 19 month old crunched a ton of Goldfish crackers into the carpet and I chose to play with him and wait to clean it up after he went down for his nap. We would all be too busy feeling sorry for ourselves to read your blog. That’s what we LOVE about you Katie! You are a Daughter of God! You are proud to let people know you are and that you LOVE our Savior and Redeemer! Kudos to you!
Also, I was not home schooled and I can tell you. I was raised to treat everyone kindly and with respect. I was a popular girl on the cheerleading squad…but I caught a lot of nasty things because I chose to be good to everyone, even those not-so-popular kids. My self esteem took a lot of blows in high school. It was VERY tough. I’m in the process of talking to my hubby about home schooling when it is time. There is just too much hurt and bad that these little children are learning way to soon. so kudos to your momma for teaching you at home. She must be a great lady! You turned out great!
awesome comment Megan!
Hey Katie,
Its unfortunately how things go these days. Its become so easy to hide behind this series of tubes and wires that we call the WWW. I too have thinish skin, and while I can take is most days as much as I dish it out, I also would want to hide under my covers and cry if I even had a mean comment left for me somewhere. I read your blog everyday, (got hooked on here from YHL, and now find I can relate better to you than I can over there 🙂 and comment as often as I read. Do I agree with everything you write or say? Of course not…but that doesnt give me or anyone else liscence to get verbal diahrea and say whatever we like.
I hope that the HUGE # of commenters who have said they read your blog, and are coming out of lurkerville to comment, remind you that you do a great job of blogging with humor and a realistic approach to life. I LOVE that you dont take yourself too seriously!!!!
Take care of yourself and your family Katie!!!
XO Lynn
Katie Bower….this is why i love you…bacon eating…alleged big head and all, well the version of you I have come to know by reading every post! It is a shame that the world is so full of negativity. We just discussed this at church last week. it is truly sad. One thing I know for sure is that you may be more energetic or serious as you write, but one thing shines through and that is your honest goodness. It is obvious to anyone who reads and if they feel the need after that to leave a negative comment….consider the source, how bad can their life be? I love your blog and your pictures of Will and the way you call Jeremy your boyfriend….too cute! So many people love you, the ones who don’t can just kiss your….big melon! 🙂
Katie,
I’ve never posted on your blog before and I’m a relative newbie…but since discovering it, I’m addicted. I LOVE LOVE LOVE your humour, charm, your photos and your fun ideas. I’m off on mat. leave right now (with an almost 7 month old – yeah, us Canadians get nice long mat. leaves) and I always come to check out your latest post once I put my lil man down for his nap. It refreshes me and gives me some time to chill out for a bit.
I have to be honest, that it’s so hard to believe that people have the guts, the time, and really the opinion that they think needs to be heard to post on YOUR blog! If they don’t like what you’ve written, then maybe they should choose not to read it, seeing as it’s a choice that they’re making.
Please know that for all of the bad out there, there’s also lots of good…. and you are always so positive when it comes to dealing with that negativity. You’re an excellent display of how others could choose to act. Anyways, just wanted to THANK YOU for taking the time to do your blog…. and best wishes with your house stuff. I’ll cross my fingers for you. Take Care.
Katie, I adore your blog and how you keep things real. Jesus never said following Him would be a breeze, and you’re honest when it’s not.
Plus, you’re just so gosh-darn hilarious. Yours is a blog where I actually read the words between the pictures instead of just looking for eye candy. Though you’ve definitely got me interested in learning more about photography… 🙂
So I keep coming back, excited to see what you, Jeremy, and Will are up to. Thank you for sharing a little glimpse into your world via this blog.
Haters gonna hate. It sucks. Kudos to you for standing up to ’em.
Oh, also, any time I see anything bacon-related, I instantly think of you. Like all this yummy pork-related goodness: http://www.thinkgeek.com/brain/whereisit.cgi?t=bacon 🙂
Amen, Kera!
I want to home-school too, and I have since high school. My husband (when he was my boyfriend) was so against it. And now he’s like there is no way the kids are going to public school. He says now he wants to be in control of what our child is exposed to. It doesn’t help that we live in California and in San Diego, they give out birth control to 4th graders. Eek! No way!
Hi Katie!
I’ve been reading your blog for a long time now and this is the first time I’ve posted a comment. I just wanted to let you know that your blog is one of my favourites to read; I look forward to new posts all the time. It’s definitely one of the more “real” blogs out there, it’s always relatable. Don’t let any negativity get to you (it’s hard not too though!). You have a great house and family. Plus your recipes are delicious!
Looking forward to many more posts to come! And I’m keeping my fingers crossed for your new house!!!
Amanda
I’m going to take a minute to repeat what a few others have written. I love reading your blog. I think you are fantastic, talented, funny, smart, beautiful, etc. I look forward to each and every post. Your photos, diy projects, thrifting, love for your family and everything in between entertains and inspires me. Keep on, keepin’ on.
Katie- Don’t you feel like you are working with the public? Really, your blog is being read by all of us public people 🙂 . I am a hairstylist and let me tell ya, working with the public in my eyes, no matter what you do, is beyond hard. You have to hear all the negativity they bring. I have decided after five years, to take that negativity and turn it around and try to make their day better because obviously they are the ones having a terrible day. (or they are just plain mean, and need Jesus) Needless to say, girl you stand strong, hold your head up high, and lay down at night knowing you have a terrific boyfriend, and a precious little boy and thats all you need (and that awesome house would just be the cherry on top) . And when you need to vent, girl we are here to read!!
Thanks for being so honest! I found your blog somehow through a food blog which linked to another blog which linked to yours! I love reading about your life, your home, your family, your photography and all things crafty!
Isn’t it human nature to dwell on the “meanies” in the world and at that moment, forget about all the nice people. Hang in there! I am sure there are more FRIENDS than foes out there for you and your blog.
Katie, I love your blog! Over the years I’ve thought of blogging but I don’t because I don’t have any idea where I’d find the time. The fact that you do all the amazing things you do (all your projects on your home, your bargain hunting, your fun activities with Will…and don’t forget taking pictures of all those things, uploading, editting, etc.) AND find the time to share them with us is unbelievable. And I appreciate it so much because I come here to STEAL your ideas! Which is why it’s so funny that someone would accuse you of stealing ideas, cause isn’t that what we’re all here for? HA!
You have great taste, great ideas on a budget, and a beautiful family that I love hearing all about. I really don’t know why people can’t resist saying something mean when all of us know “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” No one HAS to come to your blog…if they don’t like it they should just leave and not come back!
And I’m not an expert on Jesus, but I think he wanted us to love each other more than anything, and so saying mean judgy things on people’s blogs is not being a good follower of Jesus either.
Thanks for your blog- I look forward to reading it and I get so much out of it. I am totally making Ana White’s farmhouse bed this weekend and following your tips!!
Don’t even get me started on the sex ed situation! AH!!!
So… I’m there. I’ve stopepd blogging because I lost my drive. And I honestly think I lost my drive when I kept getting nasty comments on silly things. I mean – I wasn’t even blogging on anything touchy, but people literally commented super nasty on typos. Or how boring I was (which is funny, because they read the posts first). Or how i was stealing people’s ideas.
And ya know what? You’re right – it DOES sting! Even though I don’t know them, it made me questions myself.
The worst part was when people I actually KNEW in real life left mean comments. And yes they were about stupid silly things as well, but it hurt even more.
I tried to post a few stick-it-to-’em type posts, as if I cared what nasty things they had to say! But honestly, I did. And I haven’t posted in almost 2 months. I’ve lost my drive because people are hurtful. I’ve lost any interest in posting about my life becuase people are cruel. I no longer feel like it’s worth it. THe bad comment isn’t worth the 10 nice ones, because, if we’re honest, it overshadows them anyways.
How sad is that? I LOVED blogging. The only thing I didn’t like before all of this was that my family knows about it and I can’t blog about all of THAT stuff. I wished I could becuase they were (sometimes still are) my biggest source of frustration and stress. And they judged (judge) me more than anyone else.
Anywho – long story short, I’m glad you posted this. It makes me feel better to knwo that someone on a bloggy level such as you is still effected by this stuff and still deals with it on a regular basis (probably WAY more than I do). I’m thinking about blogging again. About anything. About nothing. Just because I can.
Thanks, Katie.
And PS: I was SO glad to find a Christian blogger that was altogether real, refreshing, and SO so much fun. You don’t have to be preachy to follow Christ, but your life should be enough. And yours is. I love your honesty and it really is a reminder that we don’t have to be perfect, we just gotta love others and do our best. 🙂
That. was. AWESOME! Go Katie! I thank you for your honesty, for your tenacity to keep going, for your inspiration, for sharing your life with us readers, for sharing your faith in God, and for making me laugh almost everyday! 🙂 God has given you such awesome gifts and talents…let me list what I see everyday on this blog – decorating a house to be a home, capturing amazing photos, writing “laugh til I snort” posts, and many, many more! Thank you again! 🙂
Katie,
Your blog makes my day I love seeing your ideas and your writing is hilarious. It is a sad thing to know that there are people out there that just want to ruin things for others. I think that you are a great witness to the love that Jesus has for us and I love how refreshing it is to read something you wrote about the Lord. Other blogs sometimes come off empty when the person has a seemingly great life and they don’t thank the one who gave it to them. I know that I don’t know the real 100% you but the little bit I see tells me that you are a wonderful person, wife and mother. Keep it up girl you really are an inspiration and don’t let anyone tell you different!!!
Katie, I love your blog although I’ve never commented! I love everything you have to say and love that you are honest and hilarious! I hope you keep blogging for a long time because I always look forward to your posts 🙂
Katie! You Rock!
I have a list of “my favorite blogs” and you happen to be on it. Everyday when I open up that blog list, I get so excited to see what the Bower family has been up to! I’ve never commented before, but wanted to let you know that you are awesome. I love your blog and your sense of humor-keep it rockin’ katie!
🙂
Katie~
This post is very encouraging to me. I started my own blog almost 2 weeks ago after being inspired by you and sherry and meg duerksen…among others. (I actually wrote a post about you guys…hope that’s not weird.) Anyway, I was working on a blog post last night about the stress of coming up with the perfect post, one that everyone would love and would have nothing negative to say. An impossible goal, I realize. I think you said it perfectly here and I THANK YOU for writing a beautifully put together piece on this subject. I feel even more encouraged to do my own thing-ON MY OWN BLOG-now! Much blog love…Ana :o)
Kate, love you, love your blog, love Will, love Jeremy, love your house, love your photography tips, love your tutorial, love everything – I have more than 1000 unread posts in my reader and I still check every day to see if there is a new post from you. Thank you for being so open and such an inspiration.
Awesome comment Sarah! I am so sorry you had to go through hurtful stuff! Bless your heart too!!
Hi Katie! I am a new reader to your blog, and I LOVE it! I know it is hard to have to read the comments of people that are always being negative, but don’t even worry about them (easier said than done…I would also have a very hard time with it too), but in the end this is YOUR blog so do what YOU want to do. Some (probably most) of us really appreciate what you do and you are doing a great job in my opinion!!! So keep up the good work and don’t let cruel people get you down because I am sure there are many more people that think highly of you and you family, and really those mean people don’t even matter!!! 🙂
Good for you for being honest and defending yourself, your blog and your family. The internet can be a tough world, especially when jealousy comes into play. I say just do what you love, write about what you love, and be happy with that! 🙂
Katie,
I think you’re cool, funny and creative. People suck sometimes! You’re too strong and confidant to let it get you down. Chin Up Girl! Some people are just haters because they are unhappy with what they see or lack in their own lives.
You Rock!
Katie… I just want to say that I really really enjoy your blog! I love that you are a believer in Christ who is real, fun, and able to laugh at your own mistakes and short comings… and I think that you make our God smile in delight! I love the pics you take… your composition, your creativity, your post processing… you have a real talent girl! I love your decorating style… oh if only we had more space (and possibly a little more $$) to just run wild… there are several of yours ideas that I would love to apply!!
Thank you for putting yourself, and your family, out there to bless others!!!! I really enjoy what you have to say… all the way up here in the great white north… the TRUE north!! 🙂
I also adore your blog! I hate those bullies out there that feel the need to tear others down. I know that it’s hard to ignore such mean/hateful comments even if they are very much in the minority, but please remember all of us out there (and clearly there are lots and lots of us) that love your blog so much and find so much inspiration from your projects, heartfelt posts, and bacon recipes.
Very well said! Nothing worse than someone who acts snarky just to hear themselves and to stroke their overblown egos.
Personally, I love your blog! You’ve got a beautiful family, fun blog and writing style, amazing ideas and an incredible eye for design. I truly look forward to reading your blog, and I visit it daily. Keep up the excellent work, and remember – 99.99% of us out here are rooting for you and looking forward to ALL topics of your posts!
Hope this day ends on a better note for you and your family!
I have a tiny blog I haven’t updated in forever, but you’re so right about the pressure to produce once you have a readership. And the people who have nothing better to do but write crappy things about other people’s work just aren’t worth paying attention to.
I third this comment. I’m not religious myself and have a low tolerance for preachiness. But I like that you are so open about your faith because you’re being yourself and I love that about my fave bloggers, of which you are one.
And whoever says you give Jesus a bad name because you mention Him with humour? Well they need to take a good hard look at how strong their faith is.
What the hell? That’s the meanest thing I’ve ever heard! Glad to hear you’ve been able to put it behind you.
AMEN! Thank you for saying that! Its good to read it from one of my personal fav. bloggers! I got my first nasty comment a while back and I couldn’t believe someone could be so dang mean! The internet and its anonymity is ruining manners in general!
You get ’em Katie!
This world needs a whole lot more grace. Not more closed lips, or special interest groups, or people telling others what to do. But more grace. More kindness and sincerity. Let’s do it!
Katie,
I LOVE YOU!!!!!
Can I get an amen? The worldwideinterwebs makes it so much easier for people to be mean… most of these people would never say something rude to someone’s face like they will behind the anonymity of the internet or even on facebook. Look at all the young kids that have killed themselves recently over relentless bullying… no matter if it’s because of your sexual preference, race, religion, blog, beliefs, whatever… who are you to tear someone else down? Why? What sick joy do you get in that? I have never understood bullying, and I never will. Thanks for giving it a voice, Katie. I know you can’t please everyone, but there’s no need for those unpleased to be mean. Period. xo
Sheesh, I don’t get some people. Honestly, if you don’t like a blog, then don’t read it, what do they think the criticism is going to acheive? I’ve had a wonderfully positive response so far, but if my blog grows I know it’s more likely there’ll be nastiness, unfortunately.
There is one of the big home blogs that I won’t name and its community is really snarky and says really mean things not just about a professional writer’s content, but about reader submitted homes! I love the blog but I’d be too scared to contribute in case someone says something awful about me! I’m so sorry to hear it’s happened to you, but remember we all think you are ACE!
Bless your heart! I love your blog!
I think you are HILARIOUS and doing such a wonderful job of keeping it real writing about your experiences with motherhood your first year. You should be very proud of yourself.
Seriously- you are FUNNY!
Katie-
I read your blog regularly and I LOVE it. Of course there are plenty of blogs that I have visited that I do NOT love – their wording might irritate me, I might be turned off by their views or lifestyle choices, etc. But what do I do? I click off of those and read blogs that I enjoy and relate to! Why on Earth would someone choose to talk down to you because they do not enjoy reading your blog?! I am just baffled. So when these people see an ugly person in passing on the street, do they see it as their duty to approach and tell said person how unattractive they are?! I highly doubt it, they probably keep their thoughts to themselves as they should. Maybe they need to remember their manners in the blogosphere as well – even though we’re using computers, this is still real life, people!
I know you will never be able to ignore the negative comments – because you have a heart. Obviously a blessing and a curse, you have to take the good with the bad. Just try to keep your chin up and remember that most of us (even the silent ones) hold you in very high regard and reading your blog brings joy to our days. Merry Christmas!! 🙂
I just wanted to comment and say I really enjoyed this post..I think there are a lot of rude or mean people and sometimes reading comments on various blogs I can’t believe the things people say. More so, I can’t beleive the things people feel entitled to say. I read your blog because I enjoy hearing about your life, projects, etc. so keep up the good blogging work, I look forward to visitng your blog daily. And I know I don’t really know you, but from what I do know, I really like who you are! 🙂
You go girl!! I love waking up here all the way on the other side of the world with opposite weather, making my morning cuppa and checking out what the Bowers have going on!! I can’t imagine anyone wouldn’t enjoy it as much as I do… who are these freaks? Lol.
Seriously though, I read a really nasty comment the other day on another blog where someone accused the blogger of being yours and Sherry’s poor imitations and stalking you both…. I could just about hear that blogger’s heart breaking. I couldn’t believe the cruelty of it, I’d only been reading that blog for a short time but I was outraged!! Just who do these people think they are? This girl has some unique ideas and a likeminded way of decorating… Should I call the cops? Was there a crime? I think not… Not only that – I personally use heaps of ideas I read on yours and others blogs… why reinvent the wheel if we don’t have to? If someone has a great idea, do them credit and use it unashamedly!! Be proud! I know I am – hey thanks for the inspiration for my colour on top and white on the bottom dining room by the way!!! First saw it on your blog, showed it to everyone I know, and then followed through with the paint on my walls – I had the courage to do it because I’d seen it on your walls and it looked fabulous! It does in my house too! And now even my husband tells people “oh Kristy got the idea from this great blog… the dining room is in her favourites, do you wanna see it”?
OK I’ve gone slightly off track… One more message then I’ll get down off my soapbox. If you don’t have anything nice to say people, just don’t say anything at all, simple as that.
Keep on doing what you do Katie – it’s freakin fantastic. Love your work! 🙂
K x
This is totally one of those “wth are people thinking” moments? If someone doesn’t like your blog, um…don’t read it, maybe? It’s nervy of folks to assume that since they read your blog, they know who you are and feel free to comment on you as a person.
However, as someone who reads your blog and has interacted with you (ok, once, via email – I sent you a link for a bacon stuffed animal), I totally feel like I can say – whatever part of you you put out there on your blog…the funny, charming, sweet, part of you…you are appreciated and loved. And some people are sucky.
Hi Katie! I found your blog this past summer and I LOVE it! I check in on you daily as well as YHL’s blog! My husband and I just bought our first home and I have been so inspired by you and YHL!!! Thanks for sharing all your GREAT ideas!
I LOVE that you keep Christ in every part of your life, even your blog! It takes courage to do that in this culture! And I love that you were homeschool because I was too! I actually LOVED it and was so thankful that I didn’t have to deal with all the crap that my friends did!
God bless you and keep at it!
I’m another lurker who usually doesn’t comment — but I just want to encourage you to keep doing what you’re doing, and to thank you for putting yourself out there for our benefit.
I guess it’s in the nature of some people to compare themselves to bloggers (especially successful ones like yourself) and take their jealousy out on you in rude comments. People would do well to remember behind every blog is a real person with feelings.
I know it’s 100% true that no reader really “knows” you Katie — but from what I do know, I think you’re fantastic!
Hi Katie! I’ve been reading your blog each day for the last two months (found you through young house love) and you are by far my absolute favorite blog to read! I think you and your boyfriend are adorable and Will is so sweet (I also have a 3 year old boy named Will!). No matter where you go or what you do in life, there are going to be those people trying to drag you down. Ignore them and divert your attention to all of the cheerleaders that are lined up on the sidelines for you!!!
I love your ideas–you inspired me to plant paper white bulbs–My son Will is loving watching them grow. Also—your Nursery for Will is the most original I’ve ever seen, just stunning. You’ve inspired me—thank you!!!
Let me echo everyone else’s comment and say you are awesome, and one of my FAVORITE’s! It is hard to open up and be honest and vulnerable, but quite frankly I think thats what draws us to you (along with your beautiful house and baby boy!) You are human! Don’t put a shield up just because of some meanie-head-jerks (who are probably just jealous of you). “Happiness is the best revenge” – or 194 responses and counting telling you that you are adored. That’s gotta count for a lot! 🙂 Don’t change!
Katie-
This is my first official blog “comment” and I just wanted to say I LOVE YOUR BLOG! And Will is pretty cute too. 🙂
true that 🙂 treat others how you would like to be treated! too many people are disrespectful and nasty for no GOOD reason!! Be yourself…dont sweat the haters!
Hey sissy! I love Bower Power too! You got me hooked on it! Katie, you rock. everyone else can bite it!
I disagree with Ashley as well. People that have a problem with your blog should just not read it. You keep blogging because your true blog followers enjoy your blog a ton! Those people need some manners!!!
I haven’t read all the comments, but I definitely know what you mean. I work in publishing and sometimes we get the meanest emails from people who don’t like what we do or how we do it. And it’s not even personally directed at me and it ruins my day. I generally think people are ruder over email/internet/text/etc. because they don’t actually have to see the reaction it gets. (What Kristin said!)
Anyway, you rock! I love reading your blog!
My comment is going to be short and sweet….I LOVE YOUR BLOG!!!! Keep at it girl…you rock! 🙂
Katie-
You crack me up…”day ruiner”….ahahahah that’s funny. You are right, I don’t know the real you, but the you that I read about is pretty darn cool. And Jesus thinks you are REALLY cool. Hello He made you and He doesn’t make mistakes! So forget about those weirdos. And I agree with Melissa M., Will is adorable! 🙂
Just joining the chorus of readers letting you know we love you and your blog! It makes me sad to think that people ruin your day with their mean comments. I know your personality is multi-dimensional, but you seem like a sweet person, and it’s hard to picture you treating anyone that way so it seems especially mean when it happens to you.
I don’t really get why some people are mean when they comment. It really is possible to disagree with someone and not be hateful or hurtful! I read one blog where the comments about some of the “reader stories” got so downright hateful that the blog owner started letting people know up front he would be deleting or editing any nasty comments. I totally respect that, and I wish that could be done for you! Kinda hard when you’re the blog owner and the comments are about you though. 🙁
Katie the way you write is so comical, i love it.
Yeah there are occasionally things i read and dont agree with on a lot of blogs, but i wouldnt write bad things to people. Some people are meanies.
I happen to think Bower power is the best thing since sliced bread. :o)
OH! Such a good song and perfect for this post. My 7 year old son LOVES this song and it’s so cute to hear him say “Pathetic” in his cute little voice.
Katie, your great and this blog is great. Please, please, please do not let those crappy people get you down.
Sarah
I like to see posts like this because I really hope that those mean commentators read it and realize what they did, and stop wasting time leaving comments like that. I genuinely believe they are jealous, and insecure because most bloggers make life seem so wonderful and perfect, but you’re right they don’t “know” us. They want to bring us down, to make themselves feel better, bullies.
Good for you for summoning the courage to tell how you feel.
Did you read the one Holly did on In the Fun Lane awhile back?
http://www.inthefunlane.com/2010/08/just-couple-comments.html
Well said! I have never been brave enough to comment until now.
People need to remember to comment on blogs the way you would want people to comment on your blog! In other words treat people the way you would want to be treated! Mean people suck!
I don’t know what you are taking about by lacking self confidence…it takes a LOT to write about your life on the internet for all to see!
I’ve been a long time lurker, and lover 🙂 of your blog…..and this post came at the right time today. While I don’t blog often (i’m too intimidated) this post applies to real life too….just today I had a situation at my work that really hurt my feelings, so I completely understand. I think we all need a lesson from Thumper, “If you can’t say somethin’ nice, don’t say nothin’ at all”.
Anyways, keep writing Katie, most of us truly enjoy it!
Christi
Katie, just want to say that I’m a vegetarian and every time you declare your love for bacon I laugh really hard. I don’t get offended just because we don’t agree on everything. I love your honesty and your sincerity and if I didn’t, I wouldn’t read your blog. Mean people suck. Be glad you’re not one of them!
Laura,
Your comment does not make sense. Why should Ashley quit reading? She was not criticizing Katie’s blog nor Katie. The comment would be justified if she said that she can’t stand to read the blog. For all you (and I) know, Ashley is a fan. There is nothing in her comment that says otherwise. (“Or quit blogging” didn’t seem to be a request. Just some tough love.)
I also don’t see how she is the “root” of the problem. Aren’t the people that are saying the mean things the root of the problem? I don’t see how offering advice on how to deal makes her the problem. I think it’s good advice. You can’t change people but you CAN change how you react to them.
Katie,
I’m sorry that your feelings were hurt. Mine would be too. Keep developing that thick skin and know that you have a lot of fans that love you exactly how you are.
i think you’re freaking awesome.
my husband laughs at me when i tell him about what’s going on with the blogs i read.
like, this one’s pregnant or that one’s moving or this one just posted something awesome we just have to try!
he calls them my ‘pretend friends’
they’re like the opposite of an imaginary friend…i know they exist but the don’t know anything about me! lol
keep it up girl!!
cause you’re one of my favorite ‘pretend friends’ <3
Rock on, Katie. I don’t know why more people can’t remember that “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
Well said! I believe that when you have nothing nice to say, dont say anything at all…. SIMPLE! But people… just dont seem able to do that.
My sister-in-law (who also happens to be my BFF) has been dealing with mean and rude people. She is a news caster/anchor for a news station here in California and she is BEAUTIFUL! However she has been getting rude and mean comments from viewers, saying she is either too funny, too beautiful or too young! UH… THOSE ARE PROBLEMS???? Its the unhappy people out there that feel like they have to make everyone else feel empty inside. She has been getting these posts on facebook, or emails… HORRIBLE.
Thank you for being brave and writing this post. People need to be called out on their bad behavior… If their mothers and fathers could not teach them to be nice someone should tell them. I hope that you have a very wonderful Christmas.. and when things settle down I want to ask you about the homeschooling thing. Its something we are considering… not liking the way California schools are headed…. AGH!!!!
OH lordy… I have no idea how anyone can say a bad comment to you! Some times you are my only laugh of the day! I want to be like you when I grow up… well ok… when I reach your age… in like two years. HAHA…. but you have a great house, home, faith and family…the worst thing I can say or feel towards you is jealousy!
Amen, Julie!! 🙂
I agree–well said, Megan!
Also @Katie, I like Will’s nursery too. I actually saw Will’s wooden accent wall in a semi-swanky resturant at lunch the other day (it really fit too, which makes me realize how versatile it is-considering the resturant wasn’t very ‘country/rustic’ at all). I couldn’t help but stare at it and think, ‘That’s Will’s wall!! The Bower’s know how to do that!” Even though I can’t see Will’s wall in person, their wall looked really great, and almost exactly like yours, so I can imagine. They opened their resturant after Will was born so I would like to think they got the idea from you ;*) (That said, if he suddenly opens up a (juice) bar in front of the wall and offers you hot towels when you walk in his nursery, you’ll know why…)
Katie, thanks for posting this. I have a tiny blog that I write for fun and pretty much only family and friends read. It’s open to all but I don’t have the time or energy to make it anything more.
I received my first random negative comment from a stranger.
It was mean and they made me sad. It really does ruin your day. Ironically most of my “comments” are left them on Facebook. This one was right there on my blog. I deleted it. I Love your blog, you crack me up. Your online personality is similar to mine, although I’m sure in real life we are completely different 🙂 In a good way of course.
Katie, YOU ROCK!! I’m a long time lurker, first time commenter (sounds like you’ve got quite a few of those today). I adore you, your bog, your cutie pie family and all that I read. You keep it real and that’s what I love most! Thanks for this post… I had my first doo-doo comment yesterday (with 300 posts, can you believe it!) but it was hard and multiplying. Someone posted a link to my blog on a mommy-forum and they were all laughing and ridiculing a wreath I had made. Really moms? Play nice!
katie:
At the risk of sounding overly dramatic I would like to tell you i think you are deserving of nothing but love. Therefore, the poops that poop on your blog, well, they are likely unhappy people in all aspects of their own lives. This my dear, we cannot do much about. What we can do is continue to do what makes us happy and KNOW that SO MANY people ADORE your blog and all you share with us!!!!
Thank you for taking the time to write and address this, as I am sure it resonates with many bloggers. I am sure you have said what many do not have the courage to address publicly.
So thanks Katie! Keep on doing what you do so well, share and make us all laugh with your sweet natured posts!
xoxo
Becky 🙂
Thank you for writing this and being brave enough to post it. I normally don’t leave comments on blogs but I wanted you to know that I thoroughly enjoy your blog. I feel you have given me so much and I wanted to leave you a little something… I find you and your blog and family completely delightful. Thanks for all you do.
Katie,
I’m a stay at home mom and when I finally get a chance to put my girls down for a nap the first thing I do is check your blog. That and my cup of coffee are the two things I do for myself each day, so thank you for your honesty, sense of humor and inspiration. Don’t let other people’s criticism get to you or change you in anyway.
LOVE your blog! Screw the people who try to bring you down… looking at all these uplifting comments, I’d say you have a bunch of readers and fellow bloggers who have your back! I know I do!
I cannot imagine people writing negative things about you. I read your blog frequently and love it! If someone disagrees, they can just stop reading. No need to be mean. Good for you to be so transparent and honest! It takes a brave person to speak up about the “elephant” on the internet. I just started a blog and was sooo excited just to have a couple of followers! Thanks for the heads up about some people in case I ever see that. Just delete and move on, there are way too many people that adore your blog and think you are great! You are awesome!
I do think it’s awful when people say pointless rude things, really, do they have nothing better to do??
Although, I have to say, I think the moment you start turning your blog into any kind of money maker, you can really only expect such negativity. It’s just what happens in a commercial world.
Hey there,
I’ve never commented on here either, but I wanted to let you know that I appreciate you 🙂
Everyday you, your family, and your great ideas join me for my morning cup of joe as I stroll through my favorite blogs. Keep doing all that you do!
Merry Christmas!
Ashley
Didn’t anyone’s mom ever teach them… If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all! You may not agree with everything someone says but there is no reason to say nasty things just because you can.
I enjoy your blog Katie, keep up the good work!
Ah, Katie. I don’t get those folks?! What’s not to like? I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – I really appreciate your honesty. Every single rude commenter is probably jealous because you are 1. gorgeous 2. have a fabulous family 3. get to work from home to raise your little boy and 4. have a beautiful home (and you can decorate a table like no other). Have a great Christmas!
Ahh, thanks for sharing, KB. Although I’m still such a teeny blogger that I don’t think I’ve gotten any meanies yet, I’m sure it would bug me too.
Of course I don’t always agree with what other bloggers write. But then I simply don’t comment! If they are soliciting real, honest advice, I HOPE I am able to give it in a way that is helpful and not mean. Your post has reminded me to really consider how my words could come off.
Love yo blog. 🙂
I know it took guts to post this. I know I don’t have the guts to create my own blog for the entire cyber world to read and critize. It truly amazes me that people would spend the time to read you blog simply for the purpose of tearing you down. I don’t understand – if they don’t like your blog, then they should just quit reading it and find something more useful to do with their time.
And as for your mention of people saying you give Jesus a bad name (or however you put it), I must say, you are probably one of the few people I have met that seem to be 100% truthful about your feelings towards God and your relationship with Him. I know too many people that go around “talking the talk without walking the walk.” They pretend that they are perfect rather than admitting that we are all humans and, thus, are obviously not perfect. I personally think that that sheds more negativity on Christianity than anything else.
I know sometimes its easier said than done, but don’t let those nay-sayers get to you. You’re right – they don’t know you! Keep doing what makes you happy! 🙂
I went on over to The Nest and found what all the fuss was about (which they think lead you to write this particular entry). I am seriously sick to my stomach. I left high school (a long time ago) hoping that I would find that the world would be different, a little more grown up, but I guess it isn’t. Sure “if you can’t take the heat get out the kitchen” does apply, but what about “if you have nothing nice to say, then don’t say anything at all?” I think the latter, is WAY more important then the former! These are BASIC ELEMENTARY PRINCIPLES PEOPLE!
I, for one, LOVE your blog. Not ONCE have I ever thought about leaving you a mean comment! Keep on keeping on, your great! (AND NO, I do NOT think she wrote this post to fish for compliments, like others might think). Just sickening.
Katie, we recently had our fireplace remodeled. When the contractor was standing in our living room, asking us what we wanted it to look like, I brought out my laptop, pulled up your blog, and showed him a picture of your fireplace. Now I have a beautiful fireplace that looks very much like yours. 🙂
A few months later, we were working on remodeling our master bathroom. This time we did the work ourselves, to save what little money we had left from other renovations. We were trying to decide what to do with our enormous, ugly, 1986 mirror and I thought, “Ah ha! We can put a frame around it, just like they did on Bower Power!” And now both of our bathrooms have mirrors with beautiful frames. 🙂
What I’m hoping to convey is that I love your blog, along with so many other people. You have inspired me on more than one occasion, and my house is prettier because of you. I hope this comment doesn’t get lost in the sea of responses to this post, but that you are encouraged because I love what you do and that you share it with us!
Sigh…I feel for you.
You see, I am a blog lurker. I truly enjoy your blog , I found it through YHL a while ago, and love being able to check in and see what you guys are up to on the home front each day. It often makes me cringe when people write nasty or aggressive comments on both of your sites, and it takes all of my restraint to not post a scolding reply in your honors. As an ER nurse I have learned that some people are really stupid and nasty, and find it impossible to just shut up.
So just know that there are MANY of us lurkers out there that enjoy your blog, no matter what the topic may be, and the rest should just shut their pie hole 🙂
Happy Holidays!
Aaaaamen, Sistah! You’re the best, so don’t sweat it!
Hi Katie!
I read your blog daily and usually don’t comment but felt inclined to do so after reading this. I have read numerous negative comments about you on this blog as well as YHL. It was downright cruel and hateful. I have always wondered how you handle it and my heart has always gone out to you for that reason. Initially, you try to let it roll off your skin but in the end, we are all human and it HURTS. While we’re being real here, if the shoe was on the other foot, those same freaking people would feel the same way and get pissed if someone was as negative as they are themselves.
As a Christian, you know the devil works 24/7 and will stop at nothing to recruit followers and the way these folks have acted is very “Un-Christian” like. I believe you have handled yourself well considering all the negativity. Just know that God finds favor in those being persecuted and he is the ONLY one we should be aiming to please.
It’s a catch 22. You are putting yourself out there by blogging but at the same time you expect and deserve a certain amount of respect. It’s freedom of speech and gone are the days of having tact and class unfortunately.
Thanks for letting me share my two cents on the matter! You do a great job and live for you – no one else!!
Well said! I hate the negative people in the world who feel the need to rain on other people’s parade. Keep up the good work!
From one Jersey girl to another – fa-get-about- it! (That’s supposed to be done with a Soprano’s type accent but since I don’t have an accent, even when I write it, it doesn’t sound Jersey-ish.) Anyway, just remember – anyone who is truly happy with themselves does not need to be mean to other people! Bullies, they never learn…I love your blog and many people do so keep entertaining us and we will keep reading!
Hey Katie,
I’m a longtime stalker, first time commenter. I just want to tell you that I love, love, LOVE your blog- the funny, clever, often touching posts you write make my days a little happier. And don’t even get me started on how cute little Will is- the photos you post of him literally cause a tug on my uterus. I think you’re very brave to put out there how tough blogging can be, and I want you to know that while there may be some cowardly nay-sayers out there, you have so many more people who appreciate what you write and contribute to the web. Please keep doing what you do so well- be your funny, clever, creative self- and all we’ll be here, hanging on your every word. :o)
Katie,
I love your blog, and when you talk about being chunky, even though you’re not… it cracks me up.
Your blog kind of reminded me of a blog I just wrote yesterday – I only have 9 readers, nowhere near your caliber… but take a look if you the chance.
http://ourtinyplace.blogspot.com/2010/12/lets.html
Like booty poppin’… Rofl I tried it, doesn’t work as well on my legs!!!
Katie- I don’t know the personal you, but I know the blogger you and you’re smart and funny and cute and momerific and all kinds of good things! I feel bad for you that people say mean things to you. If it helps, after I have a hard day of work and my bosses, coworkers and customers berate me all day, I come home and check your blog and it makes me feel so much better after a long day. xox Please don’t stop blogging.
woops… hit submit too soon…
as I see it… we dont have a whole lot to complain about if we are sitting on the computer, on line, READING, (that means we are literate and can afford a computer and the internet) just browsing through blogs… life must be pretty good, why be mean to others, why not just be thankful???
you do a great job of presenting yourself, your beliefs and your family…. their just jealous.
I am a long time reader, but rarely comment – am usually sneaking a peek at my google reader during work hours and it’s not easy to click off and do so. I just wanted to say that of the (too) many blogs that I subscribe to, you are one of the 3 or 4 that I constantly check for new posts. I really enjoy your blog, and it’s because of the person behind it- YOU. Don’t let the negative comments get you down. Keep bloggin’ and smilin’ and don’t let the haters get to you.
And I LOVE that pic of Will. 🙂
So I don’t want to get all overly dramatic with this but….
I ran across your blog shortly before I got diagnosed with cancer. I am fine now, but went through 4 rounds of chemo, 4 days in the hospital each time. Laying in a hospital bed gets mighty boring, and there are only so many Golden Girls episodes you can watch before you go nuts. Your blog was a great source of entertainment and distraction! Keeping up with your blog was a simple reminder that things were going on in the world like normal and helped remind me that I have so much to look forward to (i.e., getting out of my 1 BR apt, having babies, etc etc). Plus, you are just down right funny and uplifting! You don’t take blogging too seriously, you don’t try to make yourself a celebrity, and no, you do not give Jesus a bad name! So, thanks, and keep up the good work 🙂
Very honest post! Well done.
Something that might, in a small way, brighten your day: On the day you posted about editing photos, a friend of mine (who also blogs), suggested that I look at your blog for inspiration. I’ve been coming back regularly every since. And, today (of all days!), I posted to her Facebook, “That Bower Power blog is my FAVORITE! I want to make the dresser that she made! Want to help me find a good buy?”
So, there you go! Ignore the naysayers because, to some people, your blog has been a source of inspiration and a wonderful way to pass the time.
Keep it up and Merry Christmas!
You ROCK Katie! I love your blog, I love your writing style, your sense of humor, and your beautiful home and family. And I appreciate that sometimes you share your insecurities with us. Too many bloggers put up a front and make like everything is perfect in their world. I really respect you for being honest and I feel like I can connect with you!
PS I have my fingers crossed for a smooth purchase of the new house!
One word. Jealousy.
I think that’s all it is. Maybe I’m wrong. But maybe I’m not, and maybe you should be flattered when someone says something rude, (haha, right, I know) because at the root of it, they are probably just jealous.
– Bethany
This is totally unrelated to this post….but I forgot to mention it in my earlier comment….do you think you and your mom would ever write a piece on home education? I home school my children and would love to hear what worked or didn’t work, what you liked or didn’t like about homeschooling, or what you might do differently with your children. Any advice that could help our experience go a lot smoother would be wonderful. Just an idea. 🙂
Best post ever. In all of the internets.
No, seriously.
And SO applicable to me and where I am with my blog right now.
Here’s the thing. I’m forward. I’ll tell ya what I think. But I’m also NICE. And when I tell you what I think, I’ll do it in the considerate way. I want others to be honest with me too. But I also expect that same dose of consideration.
And you are right. When you get those hateful comments, it does hurt. And I do run to my mama. And I can’t stop thinking about it and re-hashing it and going back and forth over if I say something back or not. And I HATE that it bothers me. And that’s exactly why I’m on a blog break.
Thanks for the post, Katie!
Katie,
I’ve never posted on your blog before, but I read you on my GoogleReader every day. This time, I had to click through. This might sound dramatic, but your post made me tear up. I feel for you… real deep down in my heart.
I think I had the hardest year of my life this year. Some wonderful things happened… I got married, I was president of my sorority, I was blessed a lot. But a lot of heartbreaking moments happened too. I was criticized for getting married young (getting knocked up is the only reason to get married these days, don’t ya know?), I heard every complaint, argument and attack as a leader, I was written about by total strangers on anonymous gossip blogs. I got hurt a lot. As brave as I tried to be… I ended up crying on the floor in my closet plenty of nights.
Sometimes I feel devastated. I love writing and blogging and starting new things and putting myself out there. I try to make life shiny and exciting and happy. Sometimes I feel like there are some people out there trying to make things shiny like me… and then there are people out there whose whole goal is to rip down the shiny people. There’s nowhere to go to escape them. They are at work and online and at school. They’ll be in the PTA and the playgroups and even the Church.
Feel bad for them… pray for them. Cause being shiny is much more fun and you don’t have to hurt other people to do it. I’m not trying to write you a sob story, I just want you to know that I felt your words deep down and I want to encourage you… cause you’re shiny and fantastic.
I told my husband all this when he got home… I was sputtering about how I felt for you and how you’re great and how I kinda just wanted to hug you. Even really brave people need hugs, you know? We decided we’re gonna pray for you… and your family… and even the people who hurt shiny people. I hope He hears us and everyone else who loves you and blesses you with peace and hope and forgiveness and that light inside that keeps you real shiny.
Just when I thought I couldn’t respect you and your blog anymore….you go and throw that in the mix. Good for you. I think we’ve all thought it at one point or another. Big cyber high-five sent your way!
i love you. there i said it.
and kudos to you for writing this post, and for putting yourself out there everyday.
i totally agree with your statement about how we write differently than we act. i feel that is SO true. and i love love love reading your blog because you are funny, honest, witty, and did i say funny? you get the point. so thank you for putting this out there and for saying it for those of us that aren’t yet brave enough. 🙂
Tina
I have been reading you blog since before little Will was born and I have never commented before today. Today I felt compelled. I have always come back to your blog for your sense of humor (and also because I wish I was a better photographer). But your sense of humor makes me smile, even on days that seemed ruined, I smile.
I know this was not your intent of this post but thank you for the many smiles you have brought me.
Amen! I am a middle school teacher and I totally related to your post. You can be doing your best absolute job possible and some grumpy person has to be a pain in the butt. We all know that it’s because the grumpy person has nothing better to do but it’s still annoying. I was really hoping that my annoying 10% of my student population would get better with age but unless you have 13 year old people commenting on you then I guess they just stay that way. Katie, what grade did you teach before anyway? kept meaning to ask…
maybe get your mom or an adoring reader (me! lol) to proof read all of your comments and just send the nasty ones to where they belong… the trash!
Katie-
I read your blog everyday and I have never commented before but I felt this post deserved a comment.
I may not know you as a person but I feel like I do and you are amazing! As others have commented, you are a wonderful role model and refreshing Christian.
While your post is directed towards the internet, I feel like it very true about the overall world today. I work in banking and I had a customer yell at me today until I was in tears ( I am not usually an emotional person) so to come home and read this paticular post was fate.
Thank you for making me smile on a weekly basis:)
Katie-I can’t believe that there are really people out there that hate on you! You never have anything but nice things to say. All I can say is that they must be weirdos!
Girl-you are the bomb diggity! Don’t let those fools get to you! I read your blog often but don’t usually comment. Today, I feel the need to tell you that you rock and your honesty and humor are the reason I read blogs. I have yet to encounter a negative comment because I have like 1 follower but it’s said that once you receive one, you’ve hit blog famousness (if that’s even a word). Keep it up, you have a precious family and I wish you the best…especially on that little house you’ve been praying for, I’m praying with you 🙂
Katie, I love reading your blog and if I didn’t, I’d just stop. Your posts about Goodwill finds and how you use them are my favorites and I appreciate your blogging everyday. I can only find the gumption to blog three days a week, so you’re doing great!
Aw Katie. I’m so sorry about these mean comments! I loved this post and applaud you for speaking your mind and speaking the truth. Now I am dreading getting those annoying comments too one day. Forgive me for speaking to you like I know you, but I think you’re awesome. And for every negative comment, there are 200 of us who want to be your BFF!
Well said Katie!
You are true to yourself and hopefully when all is said and done your blog is somewhere you can come back to and remember your life as it was unfolding. Something you can show Will as he gets older. A living scrapbook really. Good and bad. I pray that you can keep focused on that because ultimately this blog (all blogs really) is for you alone and not the readers. We just get the benefit of looking in. Bloggers who write solely for an audience will never succeed because it will never feel genuine to anyone, including themselves. I, thankfully, have only had one semi-kinda-sorta-if you read it on the wrong day-negative comment and it was hard to brush off. Put a bitter taste in my mouth all day. I keep my focus knowing I’m only trying to please myself so to hell with the haters!
As I was reading this post, I stopped in the middle, started over and read it out loud to my husband! We both agreed that what you said is long overdue! I follow a lot of blogs, but you are by far one of my top five that I read everyday. My day is not complete without checking to see if you’ve posted something new! You are one of my favorites! This is my first time to click “leave a comment,” and it won’t be my last! Katie, you have so much support and there are so many of us that adore you and your creativity! You have a beautiful home and family and I wish you nothing but the best as you journey to find another home and continue your passion for decorating! Keep on keeping on! YOU ARE AWESOME!
Aww thanks Alex…it’s stories like yours that make me smile till my cheeks burn 🙂
xo – kb
SARAH! Oh my…oh my…I would have never thought….thanks for telling me this…
xo – kb
Wow! If I ever get off the porch to play with the big dogs and have to deal w/negative comments, I’m just gonna put a link to your post…ok? Very well said! I will have you know that there are a handful of blogs that I check more than once a day because I am SO hoping there is an extra post or two for the day. Bower Power is one of those! There are also a handful of blogs I turn to when I am having a rotten day or am just in a rotten mood in general and yours is one of them. If I’ve already read the days post, I go into your archives and before long I’m in a better mood!. You, your blog and your precious baby are loved! Looking forward to more!!
Katie,
I’ve never left you a comment before mostly because I’ve never had anything that *needed* to be said, but today I wanted to tell you Thank You. I have no doubt that for each person who so easily rushes to criticize or be negative there are dozens and dozens of us who quietly love to get a little peak into the goings on in your world. Thank you for your honesty and keep up the great work 🙂
love you picture of your little one!
Shoot! My sister is Erin E, she sometimes reads this blog, she also has a son named Will, and they are big Steelers fans. LOL
Katie, I totally get where you’re coming from (really. I do.) and I am sad that people do this to you and others who open their lives up to the blogosphere.
I once made a video of the first time I fed my son solid food, put it on YouTube to share with family and totally forgot about it. Over a year later, someone left some really vulgar comments on the video and it completely ruined that memory for me. I have tried so hard to forget reading what that heartless, sick person wrote.
I can’t imagine dealing with that on a daily basis. Good for you for handling it with such class and honesty.
Go girl!
Dear Katie- For every mean comment, there are probably several dozen like me who enjoy reading your posts and seeing your pictures who never bother to comment. Not sure why,but I am certain there are lots out there. You seem fun and talented and have a lovely family and a great life. Enjoy it!
Hi there, I have never posted on a blog before! I guess it’s because I am a technologically impaired Granny… I also work as a pediatric advice nurse.
The “go to” setting for so many (especially young people) is snarky and nasty. especially, I believe if you are a Christian. You seem to be fair game if you profess faith.
I don’t get it. But, I understand your words, and I’m sorry for what you had to read. I guess that is part of the price you and me pay for being sort of “public”. Anyway, I thoroughly enjoy your blog. I read it everyday and I wish you went to my church so I could meet you and have you in my ladies group!
I’m in Oregon, so I will just virtually say, hi!
heather
Katie Bower:
You’re an awesome blossom!
While nobody who only knows you from this blog, really knows you, Jesus does, and He loves you and me…
big hearts to you, katie bower. i LOVE reading your blog. please remember that THOSE PEOPLE are a very small (loud and annoying, yes) portion of those that frequent here. 99% of the people here love hearing about your family and your photography and… well, whatever else you decide to write about. i enjoy hearing the voice behind your writing, regardless of what you are writing about.
if you never put yourself out there, you won’t be criticized, BUT you also won’t get any of the great things that come along with blogging 🙂
jill
I read your blog because I ENJOY IT, it helps me relax the day away and it helps gives me new ideas of thing to do around the house. It seems crazy that people would leave negative comments, if they did not like something, they should move on !!!!!!! WELL I love your blog and hope the positive posts keep you going strong for a long time!!!!
I really HATE that people say mean things to you. OK, I know that we Christians are supposed to say the word “hate” and that my mother would say “tsk tsk” if she read that…so I EXTREMELY DISLIKE that people say mean things to you.
What really stinks is that one cruel comment can obliterate the 1 million other kind comments you hear/read. So let me just add one more little nice comment to the pile and hopefully help overthrow the nasty ones that may come your way {which, I hope you know, are the result of people’s jealousy and insecurities…Translation: them not being awesome like you}.
So, here is one positive comment: I love love love your DIY projects, especially your advent calendar! Anyone who can put Pottery Barn to shame deserves some serious props {I have never said props before…I don’t think I’ll be doing it again}. Seriously, that advent calendar you made last year is my FAVORITE project ANYONE in the blogworld has EVER done. And I may tend to exaggerate, but really, I mean it. Ask my husband. Although if you asked him, he’d probably be tempted to punch you in the face because I’ve been pestering him to let me make one for our home. So I guess you’ll just have to trust me on this one. 🙂
*aren’t! I meant to say we “aren’t supposed to say the word ‘hate’.” Oh well. I just typed a novel, so I suppose one typo should be allowed.
Preach, preacher.
And I will say that most of these people who post mean things would never have the gumption to say those things to your face. A false sense of the security of internet anonymity will lead a person to say mean things–they feel secure being jerks from their couch or office, and I’m guessing they don’t have a blog where they share their hearts and family life, either. Spectators is what they are. And you, my dear, are a leading lady. So keep on keepin’ on. 99.9 of these responses are positive and for every one of them there’s bound to be 50 more that aren’t commenting but are thinking the same things.
And for added measure, God has given you a gift, a voice of influence, favor with a lot of different people. That “virtual backhand” is a little barb of Satan trying to knock the crown that Jesus placed on your head off of it. Remember who you are and remember that the only One whose opinion really matters LOVES your blog, and the heart and soul of the woman behind it. 🙂
God bless you, Bowers!
Katie, I don’t comment as often as I used to (on any blog!) because my time becomes less and less with two children. But . . . your style is the closest to my style that I’ve seen. I read and enjoy lots of other home blogs, but your table settings? ROCK! And Will’s nursery?!!! OhMyGoodness! It beyond rocks. So that is why I read you. Your style of writing isn’t necessarily mine, but that’s ok, I read you faithfully and regularly because you have awesome ideas! I study your pictures and learn from them. Just last week I went back over your Christmas tree posts from last year and loved how you wrapped your ribbon. So I tried it, and eventually learned how to do it and my tree is my favorite ever this year! So thank you! Several other reasons I read your blog: I won a gallon of paint over a year ago here and am still grateful (and still have nothing hanging on the walls) and my Jonathan is only two days younger than your Will. So we went through everything (pregnancy, delivery, etc) basically the same. Except that Jonathan has an older sister so I’m twice as busy as I was (when I had time to leave lots of comments!). So I’m just posting this to encourage you too! Alas, I tried to read all your comments but just couldn’t make it through . . . obviously you have lots of supporters! Merry Christmas!
Katie,
I love your blog and your writing style. I taught rhetoric at the university level this past year and am in my mid-twenties; some of my students were ruthless, rude, and unforgiving. But I constantly had to remind myself that they were freshmen–kids, basically!! And that’s what you need to remember; people that have the audacity and desire to hurt others (whether it be on their own blog or in their own classroom) are bullies–whether they be 15 or 45. Keep your beautiful outlook on life, your faith in Christ, your chin up and, I bet, you will inspire hundreds of readers for every one immature comment you receive. It’s a battle scar worth having, I suppose. Good luck!
All it is, is jealousy. Period. People who are awesome and do awesome things will always have other people who are jealous of them. Sadly, you can’t help or change them.
My dear blogger friend Katie,
Pat on the back for stating the truth and for allowing yourself to say exactly what is on your mind. I’m sure you inspired more people to keep on blogging, and maybe even to keep trudging through something else in their life that may have them down at the moment. Negative comments most likely stem from jealousy, insecurities and boredom – therefore ignore them and keep on doing what makes YOU happy. It’s actually refreshing to read something “real” and “honest” and not so “perfectly written so that every single person will like the post.” You’ve obviously maintained some steady, interested readers – kudos to you! And even if people didn’t read your blog, I think you would keep on blogging because it’s simply something you enjoy doing and that’s what is important! I just started blogging about our first home and I could care less if anyone reads it. It’s fun, I love to write and it’s something of “my own.” The real point is – laugh at those who hate you, be thankful for those who love you, and be happy with who you are and what you do.
peace and love
I “left the nest” because of this. A board was so cruel I called into work crying the next day and stayed in bed.
There’s a reason there is such a large movement about cyber bullying and suicide prevention. How would you feel if your comment or response on a blog, the nest or fb, or twitter, or any other forum was just that slight push the person considering suicide needed to make that decision?
YOU NEVER KNOW how much grief someone is going through. So if you don’t have something nice to say…don’t say it!
Well stated katie. Keep your chin up girl.
Oh my gosh. People are SO RUDE. Seriously, I am SO mad right now. I just read some of thenest.com comments. These people have NO LIFE if they have the time to sit around criticizing you. GRRR!
I LOVE your blog. You inspire me.
I am with you! I hate when people get on their high horse when it comes to something being copied! People act as if only one person can do something. If you dont want something to be copied then dont post it on the internet!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Also I am a beginner crafter and when I see something that I would like to try I usally research it first and I love that mutliple bloggers have blogged about it because I get to see what worked for them and their take on it, and just different out comes.
Don’t let people get you down, They are just haters lol. I am sure they are just jealous of you because you are funny and beautiful with a loving husband and beaultiful baby and a gorgous house! ( I know I am a little jealous hehe)
I LOVE YOU BLOG!!
To me its just one of those things that comes with the territory or blogging and I wish some of my favorite bloggers would stop getting so worked up about it, and just delete any snarky comments. No matter how hard you try to please everyone there are going to be people are there who leave nasty comments FOR NO REASON AT ALL except they are miserable with their little lives. Anywho, just keep doin what your doin. Obviously there are lots of people out there who like you and like to read your blog.
Hi Katie,
I’m a long-time reader and this will be my first comment! All I want to say is don’t let petty comments bring you down. Easy to say, but not so easy to do, I know! Just know there are a lot of people out there that love your blog and what you have to say.
The people that spend their time in forums spreading bad vibes obviously have too much time on their hands. If you don’t like the way someone writes or what they write about there is a very simple solution – don’t read their blog.
Keep up the good work and Merry Christmas to you and your family! xo
Katie, today I woke up to my second snarky comment ( which really stings when the post only has one other comment!) I tried to shrug it off, but when I checked your blog, this post really spoke to me! You made me feel like it’s ok to feel a little hurt by unkind words. I was beating myself up for being too sensitive and thin skinned, but this post reminded me that I’m only human and words do hurt! Thanks for sharing your heart!
i’m sorry that a few crabs are able to make you sometimes forget how much everyone else loves you. when i was a teacher struggling with students i just couldn’t get through to, i once had someone remind me that even jesus wasn’t able to make everyone like him. um, hello lightbulb moment for me!
we can only be what he has called us to be & not worry about the rest. & i truly think that the way you represent jesus makes him proud.
your blog is funny, inspiring, chocked-full-of-info, & downright entertaining. thank you for blogging!
Sometimes I check your blog more than once a day even though I know it won’t be updated since my last read. It’s a problem. And as much as I love your crafty ideas I have not attempted any of them because I am not really that crafty so I’m not reading your blog for ideas. I read it because I think “blog you” is hilarious. You make my day.
Katie,
This post really speaks to me and I am not blogger. However, in the last year I’ve become the manager of the gym where I work. This fall I received some negative comments from one upset member. Even though I have over 700 members, many of whom are delightful and provide many great compliments, 1 member can ruin my day, month, . . . I had a really hard time with a specific situation that created so much stress and anxiety for me that I was physically ill. I wanted to crawl away and sleep forever and I definately had my moment of that. Many people told me not to take it personally but this is easy to say and very difficult to put in to practice. Each day is still a battle because I am always fearful of this happening again and I try to do everything to protect myself from this and my work has suffered. I’ve come to realize that cowering and fearing this is letting that person win. In the next year I am going to approach my job and the people I serve with fresh enthusiasm and passion because it’s what they deserve.
Keep going and plugging away and remember the hundreds of people who you bring joy to each day. Knowing that I am not the only one who has to deal with this “stuff” is certainly my motivation to keep going.
Many blessings this Christmas and in the new year.
* Funny story: one time I submitted a comment to your blog and I didn’t see it show up in your comments section so I was affraid you didn’t like it and deleted it. I hope that wasn’t the case. I’m guessing it was a technical issue or user error (me).
Katie, you are not alone in these sentiments. Good for you for posting about your experiences. Below is a favorite quote of mine for just such moments. I hope is inspires you, too!
“It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, (because there is no effort without error or shortcoming), but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.”
~ Theodore Roosevelt at the Sorbonne, Paris, 1910
Yes! Yes! Yes!!!!
Jesus enjoyed life and friends and food and, and, and…
Keep on keeping it real, kb 🙂
Cute picture of Will! He looks determined to hunt down the haters.
I would block the IP addresses of the rude, hateful commenters. People who take the time to post mean comments should be pitied (then blocked). They have huge holes in their lives and slinging mud anonymously gives them a feeling of power. You have what they want and can’t get, so bringing you down is the next best thing.
Katie, you have inspired many with your talents and made hundreds and hundreds of new friends. What a wonderful gift you’ve been given and have generously shared with others. With a new child, husband, and a thriving blog your time and energy must be carefully managed. That means not wasting it on cyberbullies. Save it all for those you love and who love you.
Merry Christmas to you and your readers!
OK – since we’re all being honest.. 🙂
ashley just left a comment – she didn’t sugar-coat it for Katie, but she also definitely wasn’t rude – she left her opinion on the topic, only to be jumped for it by other readers. what was originally not intended to be rude, or dramatic turned that way because of the response of people like “Laura” and that’s what happens on blogs – pretty much anytime anyone disagrees with the blogger.
maybe all of this is to say, we shouldn’t disagree- this is their blog, their writings, their life – however – what’s the point of putting it out there & leaving a place for comments? i do agree that there is no place for people who are just cruel, tacky and mean because they are jealous or bitter – but that’s not what happened here, and it seems like anytime someone has a comment {on any blog} that differs from the majority they get pegged by “their followers” as being “one of those people”. the blog world is really bizarre to me & something i don’t fully understand. i think certain things come with the territory, and it comes down to do you reap the benefits more than the negative sides to it? With advertising and followers, come people who may not agree, or may challenge you on certain things & I feel like when you open yourself up to one side, you kind of have to be OK with the other… I may be totally off here, but I just don’t see how you can have one without the other..
this is more directed towards the people who comment than it is for Katie & I am just using Ashley’s comment as an example of what happens ALL THE TIME on blogs because it’s annoying to automatically be pegged as a horrible person who needs to leave if you don’t 100% agree on something.. When people do that, they misconstrue the entire point of the comment & it turns into drama .. It’s like why even bother? It just makes me wonder what the person is wanting/expecting from a blog.. ***Again, comments that attack the person, their family, etc are never OK** – but if there isn’t room for different views -then maybe having comments isn’t the best idea?
I hope I am making sense.. I am not sure how to word all of this, but just wanted to leave a response..
Thanks,
Emily
Just remember that for every mean comment you ever get, there are probably a hundred other nice people reading and loving your blog who don’t comment. I read a lot of blogs so I rarely comment, but I really enjoy hearing all about your life and house projects. You seem to have an amazing life, so there is no surprise some people might be a tad jealous and express it the wrong way.
As a blogger and reader, I can say that I understand how much pressure there is to continually produce amazing wonderful content on a daily basis. It is not easy, and I totally give you credit for sticking with it. I became tired and weary after while, and my passion for blogging just decreased naturally.
Kudos to you for being honest about the challenges, and for again calling people to love one another. What could be more Christ like than that? As a fellow believer, I whole heartedly agree with others that your light-hearted flavor of blogging is refreshing and fun, and I’ve never doubted your commitment to your faith. I find it difficult to see how others could. Keep it up Katie, you’re doing a great job!
Also, the more I read, the more I think we’d be good friends if we met IRL 🙂 Hopefully that doesn’t totally creep you out!
Your blog is one of my favorites, you have so much personality and spunk and it NEVER gets boring! I would so LOVE to hang if we lived closer, you are awesomeness:) These people (and I say these people b/c they are obviously not our people) are probably just jealous and have nothing better to do, and hey if they don’t like it they can go elsewhere!
Good OnYa, Katie!! 🙂 As a fellow ATL newlywed, home-schooled, artsy, DIY, Jesus-loving, highly imperfect, people-pleasing, with a baby on the way, southern girl, let me say that I have been delightfully stalking you ever since I stumbled across your connection to YHL (whom I also happily stalk). You express yourself honestly and with comical flair; and while I can’t pretend to KNOW you, you certainly make yourself seem approachable!
Nay-Sayers are a blight on our day to girls like us, and confronting them on your blog without being ugly yourself is something to be commended. Good job and keep it up!! 🙂
amen.
I wonder how many people read all of the comments to see if anyone wrote something negative…
Hi Katie,
I’m so sorry that people have said mean things to you. Please know that the majority of people think that your blog is amazing. Your writing voice is really original and your family and home are all beautiful. Thank you for writing and inspiring so many of us who read your wonderful blog.
well said emily!
AMEN!
I’ve followed for a while and I get true enjoyment out of your blog, your humor, your love for your “boyfriend and child, your wit, and your faith. The list is endless of all the reasons why I love your blog. BUT… this post here proves so much more about your character and how strong of a woman you are! You could have fired back in a nasty way, but you didn’t. And that takes alot of self restraint.
Don’t let the cyber-bullies ruin your day. Continue to be who you are and continue with what you are doing. Many of us out here in cyber-land enjoy your creativeness.
I have never written a comment on your blog and feel regretful about it. You should know that your blog is one of my must reads every single morning before I even start my actual work for the day. Obviously the people leaving nasty comments also enjoy reading your blog or they wouldn’t be on it or anywhere near it. It is only human to take these things personally, but I can tell you that they are just jealous and insecure about thier own lives. You have alot of great advice and are a great example of what a woman, wife and mother should be. Keep up the good blogging and screw the haters!! Merry Christmas!!
You AND your blog are awesome, and that’s all you need to know.
I’ve never met you and I probably never will, but I look forward to reading what you have to say every day. Please keep your chin up and keep up the GOOD work!
The most basic thing I could express about this topic is:
IF SOMEONE DOESN’T LIKE WHAT YOU’RE WRITING, THEY DON’T HAVE TO READ IT.
Gosh it’s not like you hold people’s eyelids open and force them to read. I come back to your site several times a week because I like it. If I didn’t like it, I wouldn’t come back. It’s that simple, people. No need to leave a snarky comment. Just don’t come back 🙂
This kills me! Why on earth leave a mean or nasty comment about a blog that you don’t enjoy. JUST STOP READING IT! Seriously?!?!?!? And what I really love is when people use Jesus to slam others… cause you know that is what Jesus was all about, right? NOT!!! KB, you are a true to your faith and you walk the walk, rather than just talking the talk as those who post those awful comments. Keep living real and please, please, please keep sharing those very real moments with us.
Doesn’t the saying go “there is no such thing as bad press”? People are talking about you, and clicking on your site (laugh all the way to the bank- Katie). The people who wrote the comments actually took time out of their day to focus on you! Good or bad, they find you worthy to write about. Keep up the good work!!
Oh feel free to delete this but- I can’t go without talking about the best comment I read (if it’s from that site). It stopped me in my tracks and made me crack up. “Apparently she likes to talk about poop a lot….” . Is that the word on the street? haha
Katie- you are made of awesome, and so many of your projects are hugely inspiring! Keep up the good work!
With love, from another sista in Christ. Word.
aww i don’t know what comment(s) sparked this, but i’m sorry you got them. i always hate that. why do people have to be mean?
anyway, keep being yourself. and think about the hundreds of NICE comments you get everyday! those outweigh the bad any day!
Oh my goodness, this post is spot on! You are so right about the rude comments thing. I have had entire weekend ruined by people’s rude comments, a replayed the whole thing over and over again! I just don’t understand why they feel the need to waste their time leaving a comment in the first place if all they plan on doing is be rude. I guess I am just not in that mind set. In the end, we should just be thankful that we don’t have to put other people down to feel good about ourselves. Yea us!
Love Katie. Keep on keeping on. I’ve never understood blog trolls.
Hi Katie,
I’ve been reading your blog for probably over a year and I don’t comment that often, but I just wanted to tell you today that I LOVE your blog.
I just started blogging and although I don’t have any regular readers yet, I’m dreading the day that a blog troll might post something mean and make me cry.
Thanks for writing this post. Maybe someone somewhere will think twice before they click “Submit Comment” after typing something mean, condescending, hurtful, or unnecessarily critical because they will remember that behind all these blogs are real people who have real feelings.
Stay sweet and don’t change!
xo,
CC
Katie…just want to throw some LOVE at ya!!
You are a darling person with a quirky, fun way of writing and sharing your life with us. Being an imperfect human being, I personally love reading about another imperfect person; and one who is out there with their love of Jesus (i.e. I noticed the book on your boyfriend’s Christmas list). If someone wants to read your blog and then feels the need to criticize it, why the heck do they read it? The person with the problem here is not you, Katie, but the one who feels the need to criticize another person’s life; someone they have never even met! People like this are not happy with themselves and just are using sweet, sensitive you to dump on. Having different opinions on things is inherent with each of us, as we are all different. But it does not give someone the right to be critical of another who is blogging in order to share their daily life with family, friends, and Internet friends. If someone does not like what they read, they can just stop reading a blog, not take it upon themselves to be critical of what they read.
Hang in there, Katie. You know there are many, many, many more of us out here that love you than the few who try to bring you down.
Much Love and (((( Hugs )))),
Anne
How do you read all these comments! The proof is in the comments. . . if they’re talking about you they read your blog!
It hurts for sure but you laugh all the way to the bank Katie!
People read your blog . . . a lot of people. . . and that means you’ve got something special.
Mean people suck. Was just talking about this tonight with a girlfriend who had been recently battered with downright vicious comments by another woman who was supposedly a “friend”. Totally agree with others that the only way these mean people can feel good about themselves is to tear others down. Doesn’t take the sting out though. Just know that for every mean comment, there are 1000 others who love you and are just too shy/lazy/busy eatin bacon to comment!! I love your house so much, we redid our family room based on yours. Copied your paint color & leather chairs. Too bad we had already redone our kitchen before I found your blog or I woulda copied that too!(Imitation is the highest form of flattery, right?!) I can’t see something bacon flavored/scented that I don’t think about you and your gorgeous bf and baby. I don’t know the real you at all, but I love your blog and your style and your wit and your open heart. Keep on bein you, KB. <3
If haters ever get you down, just look at Will’s cute little face and imagine his backyard wedding to Clara in approximately 25 years. I always picture a big white tent with a photobooth (which will be suuuuper retro by then) but feel free to imagine whatever else fries your bacon. Perhaps a bacon buffet instead of a candy buffet? Lots of love comin’ atcha from RIC. Can’t wait to visit you and the fam at your amazing new casa!
xoxo,
s (& j & c & b)
I am new to your blog, but I love it! I agree that people can be so cruel to bloggers. I love to write and tell stories about MY life, but I couldn’t handle what people were doing WITH the information I left to the public on MY blog. So, I made it a private blog and only allowed those people whom I knew would not be judgemental about MY OWN opinions and MY OWN life. Hopefully, you won’t let these nay-sayers get the best of you! 🙂
Katie – Chin up. Shoulders back. Keep hitting *publish* – from the long list of comments you obviously sparked quite the conversation here! I agree that “you rock” and that you should just delete negativity and keep on keepin’ on. Your readers love you and love to hear/see your blogger-self. When you get no replies, you can stop. For now, please keep entertaining us with your very talented diy-ing and your writing! (Your writing is amazing btw.) Sending positive vibes to the community… thanks for being you! D.
I love this AND I love you for writing it. 🙂
-Emily
I have only commented once before, but wanted to say that 1. I do love your blog and check it almost every day 2. I am engaged and because of you are ONLY checking Maggie Sottero dresses…of which I love 4 and have to try them all on very soon to choose one! I guess what I want to get across on this post is that you have influenced me over the years in a positive way. I would never have known to look for that designer. You influence your readers in a positive way in so many areas…whether they are painting their living room, ordering a wedding dress or deciding to use cloth diapers…you have an effect on people at all levels. Please be proud of yourself for this. As one who appreciates your feedback on what you have already tried…can I say, please continue?!
Something my Dad taught me that has helped me- When some one critisizes you, it does not determine who you are. but it does tell you who they are. AND, when someone praises you, it does not determine who you are, but it does tell you who they are! It works both ways! Comments about us, good are bad do not determine who we are – WE determine who we are! So continue doing what you do – because your great!
oh , and sorry for the spelling and grammer errors – it’s early!
Katie~
It saddens me that people have left you unkind comments. I LOVE your blog! I also think you are very sweet, beautiful inside and out, and have a great sense-of-humor! Never let anyone get you down or discourage you! God has made us all unique which is what makes blogs so fun! Love ya girl! Keep your head up and a smile on your face! God bless!!!
I love your blog! Thank you for being brave enough to share!
I agree with most of the commenters. I don’t understand why people would actually take the time to read a blog or comment on a blog they don’t like. I have a small blog, but people have accused me of being a copy cat of you and YHL) or whatever, but I firmly believe that there are very few original ideas left in the world of home renovating/decorating. Everything is just a spin on something that someone has seen somewhere.
I know that we don’t know you, but you do start to feel that you do when you’ve read a blog for some time. With that said, I think people leave comments becuase they feel they know you, but becuase you don’t know them, or the tone they are saying it in, it’s really easy to get confused. Of course, there still are those plain old rude, mean, and hurtful comments. I’ve had a few that made me consider quitting blogging, but then I remembered that I do this for me and if people happen to like it, then they’ll read. I’ve actually compared my blog to Britney Spears: both are train wrecks, but for some reason, both still have a few loyal fans.
I love your blog, your writing style and most of your projects. Please keep doing what you’re doing and I’ll keep on reading 😀
Dear KB. to say that I heart you and your fam is an understatement! Like others, I don’t usually comment, but when I hear that someone is being a hater about your blog… that just fires me up! So here I am sending you all of my positive thoughts and well wishes…. it’s clear that I’m not the only one who simply adores your you and your blogging. Keep up the truly inspiring work… !
YOU GO GIRL!! 🙂
I started reading this post after seeing it posted on someone else’s Tumblr (praising you for what you had said!)…let’s just say, you had me hook, line and sinker! I found myself smiling shortly after “To those people I would like to bold”, and by the end I was wishing I could reach through the computer and give you a big ole’ high 5!!
I’ll be passing this along, for sure. And, without a doubt, you just became one of my favorite bloggers! XO
~Karla @ It’s The Little Things…
I dont understand why anyone would leave a negative comment on your blog. If they dont like you or your style or how you do things, why are they even on here??? I know it’s hard to not take it personally, I would do the same thing b/c we hope that everyone in this world is nice, but I’m sure all the lovers outnumber the haters. Keep up the great work!
So I know I’m a little tardy for the party (shout out to that awful song by The Real Housewife of Atlanta) and your probably over whatever was bothering you at this moment, but I just had to give my 2 cents. I read your blog faithfully and yes, you have a beautiful home and great DIY tips but let’s be honest, you can find that on numerous blogs and websites. It takes a special blogger to stand out and your blog does. Your honesty and humor and humility make your readers feel that they know you, and unfortunately to the wrong person, that gives that person a feeling of empowerment that they can be cruel and hurtful (weirdo). But to the rest of us, it makes us feel that we aren’t the only ones going through life struggling every day and being oh-so-not perfect. You comfort us with your posts just as much as we comfort you with our comments. So please, from one person who cares entirely to much what other people think to another. I will tell you what my mama always said, ” They may talk down, but they’re looking up”. If that doesn’t work on you, there is always the philosophical quote of my 7 year old, ” I’m rubber and your glue. Whatever you say bounces off me and sticks on you.” 🙂 Merry Christmas!
I am downright anti-organized religion but I think Jesus was pretty cool and I believe in God. I think it’s the Christians that are the worst part of the whole thing.
That said, thank you for NOT being one of those people who claim Jesus as their Christ and never do anything else that shows an influence. I read your blog without cringing or wincing because you are you without apology and you work hard to see the best in the world and to be YOUR best. That is more than most ever try (pat yourself on the back here) and as long as you’re going to keep being you, I will keep checking in on your Goodwill finds and adorable baby pictures.
Keep up the good work. Truly. In all areas. You rock.
Katie,
I’m publishing my blog in 2011 and this was one of the reasons why I was terrified to start in the first place. Thanks for sharing your story and for the encouragement. Don’t change a thing and continue writing for YOU!
All the best!
Thanks for this post. I am in my 7th month of owning my first home and I found you through YHL. I have greedily been soaking up their experiences and now yours of home ownership, renovations, aesthetics, and just living a life where you love your surroundings. I honestly wondered what it was like having a blog and putting yourself out there. Even before our housewarming party I nervously asked my partner “what if our house isn’t nice enough, or someone doesn’t like it” I appreciate your willingness to go beyond the negative comments and to keep posting because people like me might not comment often (uhm ever actually) yet we sit here behind out screens and ooh and ahh and always take something positive away from our time with you. So Thank You!
Love this post! It’s so hard to hear mean spirited comments, and it’s tough not to take it personally, even if we know we shouldn’t. Actually, your words totally made me think about high schoolers, and how going a different path (say, homeschooling), can be super beneficial b/c it shields kids during hard years. I used to think that was a bad thing, but now that I’m a mom I think I would jump at the chance to shelter my kids during tumultous years.
Thanks for opening my eyes to different things, and thanks for your confidance and your spirituality–it definitely brighten my day!
Just saw this and had to let you know that I so enjoy getting a peek into your home/motherhood/wife/God loving world! I feel the perspective you give celebrates the daily life of being a woman, and it TRULY encourages me to appreciate my hubby, my home, my creativity. I find myself perusing blogs when said things feel dull and burdensome, and leave yours, and others’, blogs feeling more passionate to continue making my house a home.
Thanks for taking the time to document your world for others like me who sometimes need a boost to celebrate daily life, and to find JOY in whatever brings our own hearts joy!!! ( even if that thing is painting a wall)
Thank you for sharing so much of your life with others… I just started reading your blog about a week ago.. and already find myself coming back daily.
You GO girl!!! So many people seem to be emboldened to be mean in this online world because it can be annonymous. They feel that their are no real ramifications for their actions. Our blogs are OUR opinions. And, I appreciate you sharing yours with us! It is lively, entertaining and I appreciate your sense of humor as you write. Thank you.
I agree!
Hi Katie! It’s my first time here and wowzers! I like what I see. Your Pinterest challenge (and your adorable video) brought me here and I plan to stay. I love incredibly brave an’ honest posts like this one. You are so right on. Thanks for putting it all into words.
Rants have been so done already Katie…so ummm…you kinda suck and…… 😉 Just kidding. SOooooo kidding. I loved this post. I have no clue why some people obviously have nothing better to do than write hateful things online. Tact is not a universal possession I have learned since starting to blog. Thank you for this lady! And all you nay-sayers YA HEARD! 🙂
My best, Lynn
I LOVE your blog. I just recently started reading regularly (it took me a while to find you!), but I seriously do love everything about your personality and writing. My friend and I secretly want to be best friends with you and Sherry. Weird? Totally.
Anywho… keep doing what you love! You definitely have more lovers than haters. 🙂
Hi Katie.
Just letting you know that this post of yours WAS encouraging. I just started a blog and can totally relate. I don’t have many followers or even many comments, and I can only dream of being as good a blogger as you and Sherry (YHL, you two are my ultimate faves) are, but if I ever do get one of those nasty comments, I will remember this blog and keep my head up! keep up the good work girlie and thanks for all your inspiration 🙂
Thanks, Katie, for writing this.
I just started DIY blogging in May & have so far only received a couple of comments — most are from people I know & are very encouraging, but I have gotten a couple of “stranger” comments & you’re right, they can either make or break your day… even your week sometimes.
I’m lucky to have thickened my skin a bit through my work in journalism, but even in that arena the comments have changed with the rise of the worldhivebrain (aka worldwide web).
It used to be that someone had to take the time to write a real, hardcopy letter criticizing my work, then pay actual money to stamp it, then believe in it enough to go through with putting it in a mailbox. Then it had to go through at least one editor — who had to deem it legitimate & worthwhile — before it showed up in the ‘letters to the editor’ section.
Which I think was a good thing… people commenting on my work (online) these days can simply punch a mean stream-of-consciousness rant into their keyboard & hit send. It takes the personal accountability dimension out of the equation & allows people to hurl insults with no fear of consequence. They can even use a pseudonym — and most haters do — to avoid even having to ‘fess up to being cruel in the first place.
Not that those letters to the editor didn’t sting. My first “hate mail” was written by someone commenting on a column I’d written about the dangers of cell-phone use while driving. The commenter actually called me a “cell phone bigot.” Um… OK??? Didn’t know that was a thing.
Fortunately, my husband is great when I get a hater comment online — he calls them “stupid sh*t from a**holes playing with their phones on the toilet.” For some reason, that makes me feel SO much better about them… kinda like picturing a crowd in its underwear when you have to speak in public… just a nice field-leveler 🙂
Anyway, thanks for the post. You’re right on the money, in my book & it took a lot of nerve to say it. Rock on! And if I ever think something you’ve done is fugly, I’ll have the courtesy to at least get my arse off the can before I ruin your day ;->
Oh, and PS, my name is Amy Glor. Sherry knows (of) me. I’m not a hater, but I am a hopelessly honest commenter. (Ask her about my freak out when they posted about their soon-to-be-cork floors. Boy did I have something to say about that!! Thank goodness Sherry & John know that my heart is in the right place. At least I hope so…)
Anyhoo — I write at http://www.rentalhouserules.wordpress.com & also for Dormont-Brookline Patch.com — just so you can know who I am as much as I know who you are. Even Steven and all that… 🙂
aww thanks Amy – feel free to give me the honest truth…if I don’t like it, well, I know where to send the hate mail 🙂 jk…and you just remember whenever you get those stingers that we are in the same boat together 😉
xo – kb
I just read this and I’m so sorry. I saw the Bower Power hate blog and indent know why everyone hates you so much. Just doesn’t seem right.
Hi Katie I’m relatively new to reading blogs but oh man I’m addicted!!
I always come away from reading your blog that bit brighter and happier and I love hearing your stories about your house or your kids or your projects. I also want to get up and do something after reading your blog.
I don’t write a blog, but of course I am on facebook and I’m starting to see the ugly side of being connected online, where people forget any manners they were ever taught and think that, because they are typing on a keyboard that their words won’t hurt any less than saying it to someone’s face.
The way to look at it is like Amy says they do need to get off the can before they type and press send!!
So I’m hoping to maybe be a day maker 😀 and let you know what you probably already know, but there a lot of lovers of this blog and we probably outweigh haters.
Haters are gonna hate.
But we lovers we really do love ya!
Focus on the positive we at least mean what we say 🙂
AWw thanks girl.
xo – kb